Actually, you can wear a butt plug for an extended period of time. How long exactly is kind of up to you. Some people wear them only for a few minutes, and some people wear them all day. I found a pretty good article with some information to help you make your own decision: http://thehealthybear.com/butt-plug-guide/ in… see more Actually, you can wear a butt plug for an extended period of time. How long exactly is kind of up to you. Some people wear them only for a few minutes, and some people wear them all day. I found a pretty good article with some information to help you make your own decision: http://thehealthybear.com/butt-plug-guide/ in the article, they also mention the following: “Because of the design of butt plugs, the edge of the plug can squeeze the delicate lining of the anus between the anal sphincter and the toy, this causes decreased blood flow and if prolonged can cause damage or ulceration. For this reason it’s not recommended wearing butt plugs for longer than 2-3 hours at at time, even when comfortable.” see less Actually, you can wear a butt plug for an extended period of time. How long exactly is kind of up to you. Some people wear them only for a few minutes, and some people wear them all day. I found a pretty good article with some information to help you make your own decision: http://thehealthybear.com/butt-plug-guide/ in the article, they also mention the following: “Because of the design of butt plugs, the edge of the plug can squeeze the delicate lining of the anus between the anal sphincter and the toy, this causes decreased blood flow and if prolonged can cause damage or ulceration. For this reason it’s not recommended wearing butt plugs for longer than 2-3 hours at at time, even when comfortable.”
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If you’re not familiar with the joy of butt plugs, allow me to introduce you to a versatile toy you can enjoy regardless of gender, orientation, or genitalia. If you have a prostate, butt plugs can stimulate it; if you have a vagina, a butt plug can create incredibly pleasurable pressure on the back vaginal wall. Not to mention that the anus is also surrounded by nerve endings.
Butt plugs are wonderful toys that can help you safely explore new sexual territory. If you’ve never tried them, or if you’re already into anal sex, they can help you switch up your routine while warming up your body for new things. Whatever the reason you’re keen to dive into the world of butt plug play, there are a few things you should know for a comfortable, safe, and sexy experience.
- What are butt plugs?
- What should I know before purchasing a butt plug?
- Can butt plugs be used for more than anal sex preparation?
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- Butt why?
- So many orgasms, so little time
- Butt plugs for one and all: to each their own
- You just gotta know how to use ‘em right
- 1. Go to the bathroom
- 2. Start small
- 3. Softness = goodness
- 4. Lube. Lube. Lube.
- 5. Get turned on!
- 6. Take your sweet time
- 7. Wash your hands
- 8. Wash your butt plug
- How to Use a Butt Plug: A Guide for Beginners
- What is a Butt Plug?
- How to Use a Butt Plug
- Consider an Anal Plug Starter Kit
- Related: 36 Sex Positions Everyone Should Try in Their Lifetime
- What’s The Point?
- How To Use A Butt Plug
- What To Buy
- A Beginner’s Guide to Butt Plugs and How to Use Them for Anal Play
- You keep mentioning lube. What should I know about that?
- How do I get the plug in my butt (and take it out)?
- What about cleanup?
- Awesome, I’m in. Where can I buy a butt plug, and which one is right for me?
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What are butt plugs?
Some sex toys, such as the Wartenberg Pinwheel, have rather cryptic names. Butt plugs, however, do exactly what you’d imagine: They plug up your butt. A butt plug’s main duty is to make you feel good: “The anus can be a remarkable source of pleasure, so butt plugs, with a lot of lube, are a great way to loosen up the anus and get something inside of it,” says David Ortmann, a psychotherapist and sex therapist.
People often use butt plugs for penetrative anal-sex prep. Remember, unlike the vagina, the rectum doesn’t self-lubricate. This is why it’s important to warm up your butthole with plenty of lube and smaller objects, such as fingers and butt plugs, before penetrative sex with a strap-on or penis, says sex educator Timaree Schmit.
Butt plugs are cleverly shaped for their function. They generally have narrow tips that get progressively wider toward the middle and then narrow again to a slim neck at the base so your rectum can contain them comfortably. Since the rectum can act like a vacuum and suck objects inside, a flared bottom, pull cord, or ring prevents a butt plug from getting lost inside you, Ortmann says. (Nobody wants to be the person whose story goes viral for ending in the ER with a butt plug stuck in their bum.)
What should I know before purchasing a butt plug?
In addition to choosing a plug with a flared base, it’s important to check that your toy is body-safe. Since sex toys are sold as “novelty items,” they’re more or less unregulated by any federal agency, meaning it’s up to you to make sure that materials are safe to put in, on, and around your genitals. Once I opened my lingerie drawer to notice that a rubber vibrator had leaked pink dye everywhere. If unsafe toys can stain my underwear, what else can they harm? As Schmit points out, “Cheaper toys might be made of chemicals that can leach into your body.”
According to the Kinsey Institute, anything that’s silicone, borosilicate glass (Pyrex), or stainless steel is a good bet. Schmit suggests beginners select silicone over glass or steel, as silicone has more give and is easier to insert. All three materials are nonporous and can be thoroughly cleaned after each use. Butt plugs made of hard plastics and acrylics, on the other hand, are porous, which means they can become hotbeds of bacteria from your GI tract, which is neither safe nor sexy.
Another butt plug rule of thumb: Start small, and don’t let your eyes get bigger than your butthole. “Pick one that looks ludicrously small to you,” Ortmann says. “I remember buying my first one and thinking, This is a good medium size. I don’t think I got that thing inside of me for another decade.” If you’re a total beginner, start with the smallest size available and work your way up. After all, you can’t return a used butt plug.
Can butt plugs be used for more than anal sex preparation?
Anal sex warm-up is far from the only use for plugs. Some within the BDSM community use them as part of dominance and submission (D/s) play. (“I like to make submissives suck on the butt plug that I’m going to use on them,” Ortmann says.) An advanced user may wear a butt plug for several hours, or out in public.
Butt plugs. There is very little poetry about them. Yet these sturdy little (or big) toys have multiple practical and pleasurable uses.
Without skirting any directness linguistically: you can put them to work loosening/stretching/relaxing/readying your asshole for anal sex, AKA anal training.
Or someone else can ready you. Or you can ready someone else. Like my use of the word ready?
It’s a key concept for anyone into trying (or continuing to try) any kind of anal penetration. We must all face the fact that anuses are not like vaginas. As in, they don’t self-lubricate and relax and expand in the same way as our vaginas do. They need extra help. After-school tutoring, if you will.
If you’ve ever tried anal anything and felt it was horrifyingly bad, you probably weren’t ready. But with the right kind of loving, and maybe even a pre-coital afternoon of wearing your jazziest butt plug out and about as you scour the granola aisle, anal adventurers of all stripes are in for a damn good time.
Butt plugs are often used as a form of kink with domination and submission play. Wearing one can be a thrilling way of exploring vulnerability (or humiliation) in a way that brings deep, engorging pleasure. While some like to pull it in and out (as you would with a sex toy made for your vagina), they’re made to create a sensation of fullness in your ass.
Other options: leave it in for double penetration during masturbation, vaginal intercourse, mutual masturbation, or oral sex. Or, use it as a stand-alone accessory while you’re going about your day. To each their own.
So many orgasms, so little time
The first time I slipped my very small, shiny, metal, sphincter-friendly item in through my back door, its weight was what struck me.
It was heavy. In a reeeeeaaally good way. I felt aroused as I walked around with it in. And when I masturbated clitorally with it inside, or had sex with it inside, it was pure ecstasy. I came faster and harder than I ever had. It was touching a whole new part of me while simultaneously exerting pressure in just the right spot.
Turns out there are tons of ultra-sensitive nerve endings in your rectum, and, depending on how the plug is used, the female Skene glands (AKA the female prostate) may be stimulated, which can be a very pleasant discovery, leading to whole new qualities of orgasms.
Butt plugs for one and all: to each their own
Butt plugs come in all shapes, sizes and materials, some of them with glittering rhinestone circumferences made to look like your asshole is, in fact, a glittery portal to another universe (in a good way), and some with fox, kitty, or rabbit tails hanging off them. For the animal lovers.
They’re designed to go in and stay for a while.
They’re tapered: small at the top, large in the middle, and slim again at the neck of the toy right before the flared base. THIS. IS. WILDLY. IMPORTANT. Flared base, people.
They’re made to make their presence felt, while remaining snugly in place.
You just gotta know how to use ‘em right
Before I used my butt plug right, I also used the thing, well, uh, wrong. Once or twice. Ouch. Lesson learned: don’t rush.
Here are 8 helpful tips for embarking on your first butt plug jamboree.
1. Go to the bathroom
Go to the bathroom first if you have to go. Practice good hygiene in preparation for whatever you have planned.
2. Start small
It’s always best to start small and slowly work your way up. Some plugs even come in sets of multiple sizes, for this purpose. So practical.
3. Softness = goodness
Softer materials like silicone and vinyl make for great toys as they are soft yet firm enough to allow easy insertion, and non-toxic. I like my stainless steel one a lot too.
4. Lube. Lube. Lube.
Have lube handy and nearby before commencing any anal insertion of any kind. Here are some top lube options.
5. Get turned on!
Make sure you’re super aroused before inserting a butt plug. I like to have an orgasm first. Loosens ya right up.
6. Take your sweet time
On the best of days, I stand staunchly against the concept of “the quickie.” But when it comes to anal, this goes double. The purpose here is enjoyment, not efficiency. So relax.
Whether with a partner or by yourself, inserting a plug too fast can hurt. A lot. Start with your lubed fingers first to get used to the sensation and avoid any injury to your fragile anal canal. Only when you feel ready, insert the toy very slowly.
7. Wash your hands
Always wash your hands after inserting your plug before you go anywhere else with those dainty fingers of yours, and avoid cross-contamination, or the spreading of bacteria from the anus to the vagina, which can cause infection. Make sure your partner always respects this rule too.
8. Wash your butt plug
Wash your butt plug with hot water and soap immediately after use and let it air-dry. Never share anal toys given the risk of transmitting infections, viruses, or bacteria.
Once you get the hang of it, feel free to experiment and get creative! You might try quickly pulling the plug out as you cum for added sensation. Or you may try a vibrating butt plug. Find what feels right for you!
As always, have fun, lovelies, and never be afraid to let your freak flag fly.
How to Use a Butt Plug: A Guide for Beginners
If there’s anything the internet loves more than Monday memes or a Beyonce scandal, it’s anal sex. Seriously, stories on anal sex positions and the best anal sex toys are alive and well on the interwebs, but what about the OG butt plug? Alicia Sinclair, certified sex educator & CEO of b-Vibe, an anal play product company calls the butt plug “the pleasure product for any body and anybody”.
One important note about butt plugs that you might not know: Just because you use a butt plug don’t mean you have to have anal sex.
Here, sexperts explain what a butt plug is (and how the heck it’s different from other booty toys), why it deserves a place in your bedroom, and how to use a butt plug for maximum pleasure.
So, What Is a Butt Plug?
Plugs for your bathtub; plugs for your ears, plugs for your butt—they’re all intended to go in and stay in. Well, until you’re done using them that is. Simply put: “Butt plugs go into your back hole and stay while you play,” says Sinclair.
The specific shape of the butt plug is what makes it a butt plug, she says. “It has a tapered end for easy entry, a larger bulb for the sphincter to rest against, and then a thin neck and a flared base for easy removal,” she explains. That flared base is very important for retrieving the toy. Unlike the vagina which ends at the cervix, the anal canal keeps going and going and going up to the digestive tract and colon. “If a toy doesn’t have a flared base, there is a chance that it gets sucked inside the body and stuck in the colon,” says Sinclair. Simply put, when it comes to butt plugs, go with a flared base or go home.
Wait, are butt plugs different from anal beads? If you’ve never seen anal beads, they look kind of like a bulky string of pearls (Can’t visualize? Check out the Utimi Silicone Anal Plug; Buy It, $17, amazon.com). “Anal beads are intended to be pulled in and out, as opposed to the butt plug, which stays just stays put,” explains clinical sexologist Megan Stubbs, Ed.D. The sensation is pretty different, she adds. (Related: Your Guide To The Twelve Main Types of Sex Toys).
Okay, and what about butt plugs versus dildos? For starters, dildos don’t have a flared base. “You wouldn’t want to insert a slimmer profile dildo into your butt and then leave it there,” says Stubbs, for similar “lost and found” reasons. However, she says using a strap-on harness and dildo for butt play is safe. Just know the sensation is going to pretty different. (Related: 14 Best Vibrators to Use with a Partner)
Why You Might Want to Use a Butt Plug
If you’re clenching your glutes at the mere thought of wearing a butt plug, consider this: “The anus is loaded with nerves and is super, super sensitive,” says Sinclair. “And while that means anal sex can be painful if not done slowly, carefully, and with a lot of lube, that means it also holds a lot of pleasure potential,” says Sinclair. (Related: Everything You Need to Know About Lube)
“You can a butt plug them during almost any sexual act—regardless of your or your partner’s gender, genitalia, or sexuality,” says Sinclair. Yepp, butt plugs can be a great addition to a good ‘ole dry hump, oral sex, manual sex, penetrative sex with a penis or dildo, and more.
Butt plugs are great during penetrative play if you enjoy the sensation of feeling full or stuffed. “The anal canal and vaginal canal are next-door neighbors, so when you put a butt plug in, it decreases the width of the vaginal canal,” explains Sinclair. This increases the chances that your partner will hit your G-Spot. And if your partner has a penis, it can create more pressure that feels good along their shaft, she adds.
Sinclair compares receiving oral sex while wearing a butt plug to receiving oral sex while having your nipples played with. “It makes the play a more full-body experience,” she says. Plus, if the butt plug is long enough, it may even hit your A-spot (also known as the anterior fornix erogenous zone), which is located a few inches deeper than the G-spot in the vaginal canal and can be reached during anal penetration. You just might get to experience the coveted blended orgasm. (Related: 7 Different Types of Orgasms You Probably Didn’t Know You Could Have)
And remember, “while butt plugs don’t have to equal anal sex, they are a great way to work up to anal sex, if that’s something you and your partner might want to try,” says Sinclair. This is called anal training and entails teaching the anal sphincter how to relax by slowly increasing the size of your butt plug (over the course of weeks or months!) until you’re ready for penetrative anal sex. There are kits like the B-Vibe Beginners Anal Training Kit (Buy It, $65, bvibe.com) and the Blush Novelties Anal Butt Plugs Training Kit (Buy It, $21, amazon.com) made for this exact use.
How to Prepare to Use a Butt Plug
Even if you want to get ~down and dirty~ you probably don’t actually want to get…dirty. So, let’s not beat around the bush and get the poop question out of the way. Here’s the deal: Waste is stored in your upper bowel, not in your anal canal where the butt plug will be hanging out, so any fecal fears you have are pretty groundless, according to Sinclair. You can do a little pre- or post-clean-up if you want with a fragrance- and chemical-free wet wipe or a shower if you want. (See more: How to Prepare for Anal Sex, According To Experts).
Ready to get down to business? If you remember one thing from this article make it this: Never use a butt plug without lube. “The anus is not self-lubricating like the vagina is, so having some on hand is a must,” says Stubbs.
Keep in mind that silicone-based lubes aren’t compatible with silicone-based toys—silicone attracts to itself, so using the two together can warp your plug and create a tacky/swirly texture. That’s why Sinclair says, if you’re using a silicone plug, use a water-based lube.
If you’re using a glass or stainless-steel plug, though, silicone lubricant is a great option because it’s thicker and typically lasts longer, says Sinclair. (Related: I Tried Foria Weed Lube and It Totally Changed My Sex Life)
Lube isn’t the only ingredient in pleasurable butt plug use though. You also need foreplay to help prep the body for insertion. “You wouldn’t go from kissing to vaginal penetration, would you?” asks Sinclair. Follow that same principle for butt plug use…and then go three to ten times slower, she says.
Then, when it’s time to insert lube up the anus and the toy, inhale, and slowly press the butt plug to your anus. The best position for inserting a butt plug comes down to personal preference. Stubbs says that if your partner is putting it in, lifted missionary or doggy style work well. If you’re inserting a butt plug yourself, you might try putting it in like a tampon (by bending over and then going between your legs). Now that it’s in? Enjoy! (BTW: No, anal sex isn’t supposed to hurt.)
Where to Buy a Butt Plug
Whenever you’re purchasing a sex toy, you want something made out of a non-porous material—that means that the toy doesn’t have any tiny microscopic holes that bacteria can get lodged in. For a toy that’s going to come into contact with the bacteria in/around your anus that’s of utmost importance.
“Porous toy can also absorb any lubricant you use, and this is going to cause the area to dry out more quickly,” says Sinclair. Plus, porous materials can cause sex toys and butt plugs break down over time.” (See More: How to Buy a Safe, Quality Sex Toy).
Opt for silicone, stainless steel, or glass butt plugs. “Silicone is best for beginners because it’s flexible, so it will move with your body,” she says. “But metal and glass toys can add a nice sensation of weight, are really easy to sanitize, and will work with any lubricant.”
Beginner Butt Plugs
When you’re ready, there are a few ways to upgrade your butt plug. For starters, you can increase the diameter or length of the plug. Tango specializes in making girthier butt plugs, and the Doc Johnson Platinum Premium Silicone Plug (Buy It, $23, amazon.com) and the B-Vibe Snug Plug 4 (Buy It, $55, amazon.com) are great options, too.
You might even try a vibrating butt plug or rotating butt plug like the Doc Johnson Platinum Premium Vibrating Plug (Buy It, $34, amazon.com). “This can add a whole new level of sexy sensation to plug use,” says Sinclair. And if you’re feeling fancy, you can always try Lelo’s 24 Karat gold butt plug, Earl (Buy It, $2,590, lelo.com). Luckily, you don’t a golden butt plug to have a luxuriously good time.
- By Gabrielle Kassel
Last Updated on April 25, 2019
If you are looking to try anal but aren’t sure where to start then butt plugs are a great option. But how to use a butt plug?
Butt plugs are ideal for first timers or people looking to move into bigger more adventurous sizes. They allow you to practice on your own, and move at a comfortable pace.
This makes butt plugs a great tool for people who want to try anal fun but are a bit “tight” down there, and need a little practice to stretch out. Well, let’s get started.
What is a Butt Plug?
Butt plugs are typically used as a beginner friendly anal toy to help ease your way into anal play.
Most often, butt plugs are used for training and stretching out your anal sphincter muscle. This allows you to get used to the new feeling or new sizes.
Butt plugs can be used for short sessions, or even be left in for longer periods (of an hour or two). This is to help train your anal muscles to “loosen up”.
Butt plugs also come in a variety of materials, including metal, PVC, Glass and Silicone each providing a different feel and flexibility.
For most people starting out learning how to use a butt plug, I recommend using flexible materials like PVC or Silicone. This is because of their bendability, making them more comfortable to use.
These anal plugs are also commonly sold in sets, or “anal trainer kits”. These allow you to choose a manageable starting size and work your way up.
For anyone who is experimenting with anal for the first time, but plugs are a fantastic place to start.
Learning how to butt plug is pretty straight forward. But, before we get down and dirty you want to be sure to get prepped and ready!
How to Use a Butt Plug
Time needed: 30 minutes.
How to Use a Butt Plug
- Purchase a medical grade butt plug.
You want to make sure it is made from body-safe materials. For this guide we will be using the 3-size beginner set made from medical grade silicone, that lets you practice at your own pace.
- Use the Bathroom
To start, simply use the bathroom naturally (Yes, poop). Afterward, take a shower and clean the anal entrance and about an inch inside with a finger. Use a mild soap to avoid skin irritation.
- Flush with an Anal Enema.
If you are still worried about hygiene you can also use an enema to really flush things out thoroughly.
- Choose an Anal Lubricant
Your body does not have a natural anal lubricant. So, you must, must, must use a lube with that butt plug! I recommend using a water based lube as it won’t degrade the toy’s material and is easiest to clean up.
- Apply Lube to butt plug.
You want your toy to go in and come out as smooth as possible. So be sure to use lots and lots of lube! More lube = More comfort.
- Inject some lube inside.
For better application, you can also inject the lube inside before using the plug. This means that you will be slippery inside before you insert the butt plug.
- Position the tip of your butt plug at the entrance of your bum.
You want to slowly insert one finger into your bum, and then position the tip of your plug at the entrance. You can do this by laying on your back, or sitting down on-top of it directly.
- Push out gently with your anal muscles.
The best way to describe this would be like you are going to poop. Try to expand and relax your sphincter muscles and allow the toy to move in easily.
- Insert the plug slowly.
Remember to take your time and don’t be afraid to use more lube if you need it. Your goal for each plug and to insert it all the way past the thickest point. You might need a few tries, but with patience and practice it should slide into place!
- Keep the plug in for a few minutes.
The longer you leave your butt plug in place, the better you anal muscles will adjust and relax.
- Work your way up to larger sizes.
Once your body has relaxed and adjusted to the butt plug, you can practice with a bigger size. With time and patience you should be able to use the biggest plug no problem!
- Clean your anal plug after use.
After every session, you want to make sure to wash your toy thoroughly with soap and hot water o fight off any nasty smells, or bacteria which can be harmful to your health. A good toy cleaner can extend the life of your toy and take care of most of these issues.
Consider an Anal Plug Starter Kit
And for those of you who don’t have the supplies already you can get everything I just mentioned in the Anal Starter Kit.
It has everything you need to get started for the first time, including:
- Butt Plug Anal Trainer Set
- Pjur Analyse Me Comfort Anal Lube
- Two Lube Injectors
- An Anal Enema
- Toy Cleaner
- Cock Ring Set of Two.
For most people, this is exactly what you need for anal play for the first time.
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I know that I just threw you with a ton of new information. The most important thing when learning how to use a butt plug is to take things slowly and gradually work your way up.
Before you know it you will be a butt plug pro (but you probably shouldn’t write that on your resume). As always, thanks for reading this week’s guide on how to use a butt plug.
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Butt plugs may seem pretty risqué, but a lot of women swear by them as a source of pleasure.
Of course, even if you are intrigued, chances are you’re not going to run out and buy a toy for booty play without knowing what you’re getting yourself into. Right?
So we asked experts what the hell these are for, why some people think they’re ahhhmazing, and how to use one.
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What’s The Point?
Similar to your c-spot and G-spot, there are tons of ultra-sensitive nerve endings in your back door, says relationship coach Cory Honickman, PsyD. That means stimulating it can bring you of a ton of sexual pleasure whether you’re playing with yourself or with a partner. And, depending on how the plug is used, the female skene glands (also known as the female prostate) may be stimulated, which can be a pleasant surprise, she says.
Besides reaching erogenous zones you didn’t know you had, these toys can also be used as a form of kink, says Honickman. More specifically, people use them with domination and submission play. Using butt plugs can be a way for someone who enjoys submission to explore feeling vulnerable or humiliated in a way that gives them pleasure, says Honickman. “Women who have experienced anal orgasms say it’s a very deep and powerful sensation,” she says.
Another reason people use butt plugs is to prepare the rectum for anal play, she says. And that’s an important step if you’re looking to work up to something bigger, like a penis or larger sex toys, says Honickman. “Using a butt plug gets the rectum primed for something to enter it,” she says. “That ups your chances of having more pleasure and less pain during anal play.”
Learn about the fascinating history of the sex toy:
How To Use A Butt Plug
Of course, like with anything you’re trying for the first time, you shouldn’t jump in full force. Be prepared. “Don’t wait until the heat of the moment to get lubes, condoms, etc., lined up before the action commences,” warns Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D., certified sex therapist and resident expert at adamandeve.com. (You can always buy both condoms and lube from the Women’s Health Boutique.)
For starters, make sure you’re very aroused before even getting close to inserting a butt plug, says Honickman. This can make the sensation less jarring and more of a turn on.
Next, take your time. Whether you’re using one with a partner or by yourself, inserting a butt plug too fast can actually hurt. Start by using fingers (make sure your fingernails are trimmed) first to get used to the sensation. And make sure you’re using lots of lube from the start, says Van Kirk. Taking these steps will help ensure that you don’t get anal micro-abrasions, which can increase pain and potentially cause an infection, she says. When you feel ready, insert the toy very slowly into your rectum.
Once it’s in, you can choose your own adventure, says Van Kirk.
Though some women do pull it in and out (as you would with a sex toy made for your vagina), the plugs are designed to create a sensation of fullness in your rectum, says Van Kirk. Other options include leaving it in for “double penetration” during masturbation, vaginal intercourse, mutual masturbation, or oral sex, she says. Also, Van Kirk says that some women enjoy the sensation so much they wear them while not having sex. To each their own sexual adventure.
Van Kirk also suggests quickly removing the plug during an orgasm for an added sensation. But feel free to experiment with whatever feels right to you.
A few safety precautions to keep in mind: “Always play with an anal plug with a flared base or string so that you can easily retrieve it when play is done,” says Van Kirk. Also, never insert a toy or fingers into the vagina after anal play without washing it first, she says. Otherwise, you may introduce bacteria to the vagina and get an infection. “
Related: 9 Things Some Men Are Too Afraid to Ask For in Bed
What To Buy
For first timers: This very affordable toy is under $6, which is great if you’re not sure if anal play is something you’re into yet. Plus, the jeweled base keeps the toy from wandering too far up your backdoor and makes it easy to remove.
Akstore Small Super Steel Fetish Plug Anal Butt Personal Sex Massager, $5.99, amazon.com
For advanced users: This set of four plugs allows you to work your way up in size, which can be fun for someone who’s definitely into the booty stuff.
LinkS Silicone Butt Plug, 4 Piece Anal Trainer, $13.69, amazon.com
A Beginner’s Guide to Butt Plugs and How to Use Them for Anal Play
You keep mentioning lube. What should I know about that?
Again, the rectum doesn’t self-lubricate, so you’re going to have to help it out. And if you’re using a butt plug with multiple partners, practice safer sex by putting a condom on it and using a non-oil-based lube before each use, advises Ortmann. Oil-based lubes, including at-home options such as coconut oil, break down latex, but water- and silicone-based lubes do not.
Here’s the thing about silicone lubes, though: They’re awesome for anal play because they’re thick and tend to last longer than water-based varieties, but silicone breaks down silicone. If you’re using a silicone toy, grab a water-based lube. Glass or stainless steel butt plugs work wonderfully with any lubricant. But if you’re new to butt plugs, start with silicone, as the material has more give than glass or stainless steel.
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How do I get the plug in my butt (and take it out)?
First, don’t neglect foreplay. Instead of going straight for the ass, try a few other activities you enjoy, like oral, to get your body turned on and receptive to a new kind of stimulation.
Next, start with something smaller than a plug: Lube up your finger, or ask your partner if you can borrow theirs. Circle the anus with the finger, glide it gently in and out of the anus, then add another finger.
After your butt is comfortable with a couple of fingers, slather your plug in lube and slowly slide it inside you. I’ve found that inserting a butt plug is easiest when the receiver is bent over in doggy-style position, but everyone is shaped differently, so experiment to find out what works for you.
According to sex and relationship expert Jessica O’Reilly, the key to anal play is relaxation. As she writes in The New Sex Bible: The New Guide to Sexual Love, there are two muscle rings known as the sphincter around the entrance to the anus. You want to be gentle with them when inserting anything into your butt. “Relax, breathe deeply, and bear down slightly with your sphincter muscles as you insert for the first time,” writes O’Reilly.
To remove a butt plug, gently pull it out while taking slow and steady deep breaths, or have your partner hold the base and slide it out for you. O’Reilly also points out that removal can be easier if you’ve orgasmed during anal play, as orgasms relax the pelvic floor.
What about cleanup?
After play, always wash your butt plugs and your hands with warm water and soap. If you have a vagina, avoid transferring any bacteria from the butt to the vulva or vagina, since that can cause infection. (This means you and your partner need to wash your hands before rubbing any of your other genitalia.) You can toss silicone plugs in a dishwasher, Schmit says, and our favorite three nonporous materials — tempered glass, silicone, and stainless steel — can be boiled to disinfect them, provided that they don’t contain motors.
Awesome, I’m in. Where can I buy a butt plug, and which one is right for me?
That’s a decision between you and your butthole, but I do have some recommendations for you. You may want to buy your toy in person at a reputable adult boutique so you can ask questions of the knowledgeable staff. If you don’t have access to a good adult shop or are too shy, lazy, or busy to visit a brick-and-mortar store, you can purchase a butt plug online. Here are some of my favorites.
1. B-Vibe Novice, $130 (Shop Now)
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The aptly named Novice is tailored to those who are beginning to explore ass play, but it’s so high-quality that people at any experience level will enjoy it. It also vibrates, which can help relax the sphincter muscles and make for easier insertion (and feel fantastic).
2. Avant P5 Fluid Plug, $45 (Shop Now)
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This silicone butt plug is the colors of the gender-fluid flag, although anyone can enjoy the classic butt plug design. The flared base ensures that it will stay in place while you play or prepare for anal sex.
3. B-Vibe Snug Plug, $45 to $55 (Shop Now)
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This beautiful, geometrically shaped sex toy comes in multiple sizes and colors, including black, blue, pink, and purple. It lives up to its name by fitting snuggly in your bum, and it’s also weighted for pleasurable pressure.
4. Fifty Shades of Grey Something Forbidden Silicone Butt Plug, $15 (Shop Now)
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If you’re looking for a reliable first-time butt plug that can become a regular part of your sex life, try this small black silicone toy. It’s sleek, classic, and perfectly kinky. If you’re playing with a partner, have them slip their finger in the loop and consensually take control of your experience.
5. Icicles No. 48 Glass Plug With Flower Base, $30 (Shop Now)
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Want to hear a secret about glass sex toys? They’re great for temperature play, meaning you can warm them up or cool them down without damaging the material. During the summer, pop this floral plug in the freezer and then into your butt. In the winter, try submerging it in a bowl of warm water for a few moments before playtime. Beware: This may look dainty, but it has a four-inch circumference. Start with a smaller silicone plug before working your way up to such flower power.
6. Njoy Pure Plug, $65 to $85 (Shop Now)
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For those impressed by the sleek look of stainless steel, the Njoy Pure Plug may be the butt plug for you. While the solidity of the material can be intimidating compared to softer silicone, fear not: This teardrop-shaped toy is designed for easy entry. Just remember to buy the small version if you’re new to anal play.
7. Lovehoney Pure Pleasure Sensual Glass Butt Plug, $25 (Shop Now)
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If you want a classic glass plug and you’re not completely new to anal play, this is a lovely option. It’s advertised for beginners, but its four-and-a-half inch circumference may be too much for many novices. Work your booty with smaller silicone plugs before enjoying this girth-y icicle pop.
8. Doc Johnson Wendy Williams Triple Anal Training Butt Plug Kit, $25 (Shop Now)
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For those eager to play with small butt plugs in preparation for wider options, check out plug sets such as this Doc Johnson anal training kit, including a small, a medium, and a large plug. Ortmann refers to trios like these as “Cindy, Jan, and Marcias“: They’re sisters of different sizes.
9. Glams Silicone Mini Butt Plug With Rainbow Crystal, $25 (Shop Now)
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What if you want a small black silicone butt plug and you want it to look fabulous? All anal toys are fabulous by nature, but your booty deserves the best. Shine bright with this beginner-friendly jeweled butt plug.
10. Dominix Delux Faux Silver Fox Tail Butt Plug, $35 (Shop Now)
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Who’s daring enough to try an animal-tail butt plug? Animal-tail butt plugs, like this one from Lovehoney, are often used in dominance and submission play. The submissive wears a butt plug during “pet play,” and of course, no actual pets are harmed. You can also just try one because it looks fun.
We obviously love butt plugs, but they aren’t the only anal toys on the market. Anal beads allow you to gradually increase intensity, and people with prostates may wish to go straight for a prostate massager. Below, check out the toy recommendations for some anal sex toys beyond butt plugs.
1. Lelo Bruno, $169 (Shop Now)
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Bruno is on the pricier side, but there’s a reason why Amber Rose vouches for this luxurious brand. This prostate massager is angled, and has pleasure at top of mind. It also wraps externally around the perineum and vibrates at eight different speeds. Not every sex toy has such bragging rights.
2. Lovehoney Classic Silicone Anal Beads, $17 (Shop Now)
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Grab a bottle of water-based lube and insert these anal beads from Lovehoney one at a time. Anal beads let you control the intensity of the experience. During masturbation or partnered sex, try gently pulling out the beads at the moment of orgasm.
3. Lelo Billy Prostate Massager, $139 (Shop Now)
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This deep blue luxurious prostate massager from Lelo is a gift to your well-being. Use it alone to add prostate play to your masturbation routine, with a partner during foreplay, or even try it as a vaginal massager. Our bodies may be different but we can all enjoy high-end sex tech.
4. Riley Vibrating Silicone Dildo, $54 (Shop Now)
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If you’re curious about pegging, or anal sex with a strap-on dildo, it’s important to start small, just like with butt plugs. Don’t go straight to the massive dildo, but start with something skinny and work your way up to the massive dildo. The versatile vibrating dildo works in all orifices (but is especially suited for anal play) and is compatible with most harnesses.
Now, go forth and enjoy the pleasure of anal play with the aid of these wonderful toys. Just remember: Start with a Cindy, and always use plenty of lube.
Read more stories on tips and techniques for a satisfying sex life:
- A Beginner’s Guide to Talking Dirty Without Feeling Awkward
- Your Guide to Body-Safe Lubes and What They’re Made Of
- How to Clean Your Sex Toys Without Damaging Them, According to Experts
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