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You may have heard that Gwyneth Paltrow swears by natural forms of lube, like olive oil and aloe vera. And you may have also promptly dismissed it as kinda weird. But experts say there’s one natural lube that’s actually worth looking into: coconut oil.

“I used to recommend olive oil all the time to patients as a natural lubricant, but I now recommend coconut oil,” says Nancy Herta, M.D., an ob-gyn at Michigan State University. “If you use it as a sexual lubricant, it’s much better.”

Sexologist Emily Morse, D.H.S., host of the podcast “Sex With Emily,” agrees that it’s a good, all-natural alternative to silicone or water-based lubes. “Coconut oil is antibacterial, antifungal, and extremely moisturizing,” she says. “It’s free of any added chemical or toxins, making it seem like the ideal choice for women with allergies or sensitive skin.” (A 2013 study in the Journal of Medicinal Food found that virgin and extra virgin coconut oil have the antibacterial properties.)

Sounds great, right? Unfortunately, it’s not perfect in the lube department. Because coconut oil is antibacterial and antifungal, there’s a chance that it could disrupt your vagina’s natural pH balance and cause a yeast infection if you’re prone to them, Morse says. And, because it’s an oil-based lube, it’s not safe for use with condoms. (If you’re concerned about stuff like parabens in your lube and want to try non-food options, there are plenty of all-natural products out there like SKYN’s Natural Feel, which contains aloe vera and vitamin E, and is safe for sensitive skin.)

As with anything, if you try out coconut oil and have a reaction, stop using it immediately. But, if you’re not prone to yeast infections and want to try something all-natural, coconut oil might be the way to go. Your partner will appreciate it too since, as Herta points out, “it tastes pretty good.”

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Is It Safe to Use Coconut Oil as Lube? Ob-Gyns Explain

Is coconut oil safe?

On the whole, yes. “Coconut oil is a natural, preservative-free, and cost-friendly lubricant,” Sherry Ross, MD, a women’s health physician in Santa Monica, California, and author of She-ology, tells Health. Other doctors we spoke to endorsed it as safe as well and explained a bit more about how it is made.

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“Coconut oil is edible oil extracted from the meat of mature coconuts has many good qualities: it is very moisturizing and it has natural antimicrobial and antifungal properties,” Nita Landry, MD, an ob-gyn in Los Angeles and physician on the television show The Doctors, tells Health.

Benefits of using coconut oil as lube

As Dr. Landry says, coconut oil is moisturizing. That’s something Florida-based ob-gyn Jennifer Landa, MD, chief medical officer at BodyLogicMD, previously pointed out to Health. “One of my favorite natural lubricants is extra virgin coconut oil,” she said. “It is moisturizing and lubricating and doesn’t ball up like a lot of lubes you can buy.”

Coconut oil’s consistency is also a draw. Dr. Ross says that it’s thicker and longer-lasting compared to silicone- and water-based artificial lubricants. At the same time, it won’t get clumpy, as other lubricants can, she says.

Any natural, plant-based oil can be used safely as a lubricant, yet “some of these oil-based lubes can be messier, harder to wash off, and stain clothing and sheets,” Dr. Ross believes, explaining that coconut oil is less messy than, say, olive oil. (Olive oil was the sexual lubricant of choice for ancient Greeks and Romans, she adds.)

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Downsides of using coconut oil as lube

First, and this is important, coconut oil lube shouldn’t be used with latex condoms. Like all oil-based lubricants artificial or natural, the oil in coconut oil can potentially degrade the latex in your partner’s condom—possibly putting you at risk of a sexually transmitted infection or pregnancy.

“Coconut oil cannot be used with latex condoms because it can break down the latex and cause the condom to break,” states Dr. Landry. Only water- and silicone-based lubricants can be used with latex condoms without risking breakage, she says. The only time it’s okay to use coconut oil with a condom is if the condom is made from polyurethane, clarifies Dr. Ross, which won’t degrade.

Coconut oil as a lubricant isn’t necessarily a good idea if you’re prone to vaginal infections, such as yeast infections. It’s not exactly clear why some women are more infection prone, but if you are, you may want to play it safe. “Because coconut oil is antibacterial and antifungal, it has the potential to disrupt the pH balance in your vagina and cause a yeast infection,” says Dr. Landry.

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What kind of coconut oil should I use?

“Partially hydrogenated and refined coconut oil contain additives that can be irritating or even leave the skin dryer than before,” explains Dr. Landry. So “stick to virgin, unrefined coconut oil when it comes to lube as well as any other use. This oil is extracted from the fruit of fresh coconuts without using high temperatures or chemicals.”

Adds Dr. Ross: “You want to look for pure coconut oil that is natural, preservative-free, and does not contain any fragrances. Look at the ingredient list on the bottle to make sure the only item listed is coconut oil.”

Go easy on how much coconut oil you use during a sex session. While in general it makes for a safe motion lotion, too much is not necessarily a good thing for your vagina. “If you are going to try coconut oil lube, be sure to only use a small amount,” says Dr. Landry. “An excess buildup of oil in the vagina can be a breeding ground for unwanted bacteria or yeast.” Definitely not something you want to happen after a slippery, super pleasurable roll in the hay.

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It seems like everyone is using coconut oil these days, and not just for sauteing veggies. With seemingly limitless uses for health and beauty, what was once a humble pantry staple has become the latest all-purpose health food of the moment. But as with any explosive health and beauty trend, there comes a point when things can get taken a little too far. The recent media fixation has led many a blogger to recommend coconut oil as a personal lubricant, citing its edibility as the key factor in making it suitable for use on our most delicate tissues.

But can you use coconut oil as lube? Maybe the “if you can eat it, then you can use it as lube” argument doesn’t quite work — after all, you can eat Sriracha, and we don’t see anybody suggesting that as lube. But, coconut oil comes with a long list of impressive health benefits, and seems perfect for the job. Right?
We at Good Clean Love have spent a long time thinking about how to make the best natural lubricant we can, and despite the recent craze, we don’t make a coconut oil lubricant, and we don’t use coconut oil as lube ourselves. We’re going to give you four reasons why — but first let’s go over the things you do want in a natural lubricant so we can see how coconut oil measures up.

Things to Consider When Choosing a Natural Lubricant

People use an incredible range of substances as personal lubricants, and not just substances from the lube section at the drugstore. Can you use baby oil as lube? Can you use olive oil as lube? What about lotion? What are the rules? It may seem like anything goes, but in fact there are some important questions to ask when you’re looking for new things to use as lube.

Is it salt-balanced and pH-balanced?

We put this question first because a lot of women don’t know how important it is and they end up getting sick. Your vagina has a natural salt balance (osmolality) and pH balance. When these are where they should be, they help protect you against a variety of mishaps, like bacterial vaginosis (BV) and yeast infections. But when you put something with the wrong pH or salt balance into your vagina, you can disrupt your natural balance and lose those protections.

When you’re looking for a new lube, ask if its pH and osmolality match healthy vaginal conditions; if not, look elsewhere.

Is it antibacterial?

“Antibacterial” might sound great at first — who wants a vagina full of bacteria? Well … it turns out you do. While it’s true that some bacteria cause disease, including BV, there are also good bacteria, called lactobacilli, that live in the vagina and protect you from those same diseases, as well as from yeast infections.

Unfortunately, an antibacterial kills all the bacteria, good and bad alike. That means you’re free of harmful bacteria for the moment, but you’ve also lost your natural defense, and now you’re vulnerable to yeast infections — and to BV the next time those bad bacteria show up. When you’re choosing what to use as lube, choose something that lets your good bacteria thrive.

Is it oil-based?

Sex-Ed 101: Most condoms are latex, and oil breaks down latex. If you’re using a condom and you don’t want it to break (hint: you don’t), don’t get oil-based lubricants anywhere near it; the same goes for latex toys. Look for a natural water-based lube or a silicone-based lube.

Is it safe on your skin?

Some substances just aren’t safe on human skin, period. They clog pores, they burn, they cause allergic reactions, you name it. And if something isn’t good for your skin in the first place, the last place you want it is in the extra-sensitive skin inside your vagina.

Is it safe for conception?

This one isn’t important for everyone, but if you’re TTC (“trying to conceive,” for those of you out of the fertility loop), or if you think you might be TTC one day, you should know that many personal lubricants dramatically decrease sperm motility, which makes it harder for you to get pregnant. That includes not only over-the-counter commercial lubes, which often include spermicidal ingredients, but also natural oils and even saliva.

So if you’re TTC and looking around for new things to use as lube, take care to find something that’s not going to keep you from having the family you want.

Is it easy to use?

Everything is better when it’s easy to use, but give this question extra thought for anything that’s going to come into play during sexy times. If you’ve ever been carried away by a romantic moment only to have the mood killed by a lube malfunction, we’re sure you’ll agree. Use a lube that doesn’t interrupt you, doesn’t break your concentration, and keeps the pleasure flowing effortlessly.

Is it tasty and edible?

Sure, maybe you won’t end up putting something lube-covered in your mouth during sex — but then again, maybe you will. Leave the option open by choosing a natural lube you don’t mind tasting.

How Does Coconut Oil as Lube Stack Up?

Now that we know what we’re looking for, let’s get back to our question: Can I use coconut oil as lube? Let’s look at our criteria one by one.

Salt-balanced and pH-balanced?

Some women worry that coconut oil doesn’t have the right pH and salt balance to make a safe natural lube. That’s the right thing to worry about, but the answers from a quick search can be misleading. In fact, the concepts of osmolality and pH only apply to solutions in water. Oils, including coconut oil, don’t have osmolality or pH at all; the concept simply doesn’t apply to them. It’s true that oils have something called “acidity,” but that works differently than the water-based pH that’s so important for women’s health.

So, while it wouldn’t be true to say coconut oil is pH-balanced or salt-balanced, using coconut oil as lubricant won’t do any harm to your natural balance.

Verdict: Yes

Antibacterial?

This one is complicated. There are several studies showing that ingredients in coconut oil are antibacterial — but many of the same studies show that coconut oil itself is not antibacterial. What’s going on? Those antibacterial ingredients are definitely in the coconut oil, but it may be that they’re chemically bonded in a way that neutralizes their antibacterial properties, which means your healthy lactobacilli won’t mind at all if you put coconut oil in your vagina.
To avoid confusion, we should note that although coconut oil seems (for now) to be safe for bacteria, it does kill fungus, including Candida fungus responsible for yeast infections.

That doesn’t have anything to do with finding the best natural lube, but many women do use coconut oil for yeast infections, and if you’re one of them, we don’t want you to get the wrong idea. Summary: no, coconut oil is (probably) not antibacterial, and yes, it may be effective against yeast, which are not bacteria but fungi.
Ultimately, though, without more scientific studies it’s hard to be sure whether coconut oil in the vagina acts as an antibacterial or not. Since this is something we’d like to be sure of before we get too far down the road of coconut oil lube, we have some concerns here.

Verdict: Uncertain

Oil-based?

It sure is! Coconut oil — what gave it away? That means you need to keep coconut oil away from latex condoms and latex toys. If you use a latex condom during sex, even occasionally, keep the coconut oil in the kitchen and stick with a water-based lubricant — having the jar of oil by the bed might encourage its absent-minded use when the condom is on.

Verdict: Yes

Safe for Conception?

Here again, nobody really knows. You’ll find a lot of bloggers who claim using coconut oil as lube is great for fertility, and just as many who claim it’s terrible for fertility — but as for actual science, we haven’t seen any yet. However, since the science we have shows that other natural oils are not safe for conception, we’d think twice about using coconut oil for lube if you’re trying to get pregnant.

Verdict: Uncertain

Safe on your skin?

Most people have no problem with coconut oil on their skin, but a few do have reactions. For some people, coconut oil is comedogenic — which means it can clog your pores, causing bumps and irritation to the skin that comes into contact with the oil. Others might have a variety of allergic reactions, although not as commonly as with other nut oils.

Fortunately, it’s easy to test yourself: Before you use coconut oil as lubricant, just rub a little on your skin and see what happens over the next few days. If it looks like the coast is clear, try putting a little coconut oil on your vagina to make absolutely sure. The first time you reach for your coconut oil during sex, you don’t want any nasty surprises!

Verdict: Varies by individual

Easy to Use?

Coconut oil isn’t the worst here … but it could be better. First you need to make sure it’s liquid, which you can do by keeping it somewhere warm or rubbing it between your hands — but wouldn’t it be nicer to use something you didn’t have to worry about? Then, once you get going, coconut oil is super slippery but not very viscous, which means it tends to fall off your skin and get on your sheets, which it stains. Again, not the end of the world, but not ideal. And since there are so many personal lubricants out there that are easy to use, it’s hard to give our hypothetical coconut oil lubricant a pass.

Verdict: No

Tasty and edible?

Yep. It’s coconut oil.

Verdict: Yes

Our Conclusion: 4 Reasons NOT To Use Coconut Oil as Lube

We’re sympathetic. Lots of us here at Good Clean Love like coconut oil — it’s a great high-heat cooking oil and also a gentle moisturizer that makes you smell like a macaroon. We eat virgin, unrefined coconut oil straight from the jar and put it on chapped lips. In fact, we even used to offer a coconut oil personal lubricant on this website. But after careful thought, we no longer recommend coconut oil as lube. There are arguments on both sides, but here are the four important points for us.

1. Coconut oil has all the downsides of other oil-based lubricants.

Since coconut oil is (obviously) an oil, it has the same problems as any other oil-based lubricant. For one, coconut oil is not compatible with latex, which means you can’t use it with traditional condoms and certain sex toys. Bid farewell to your pocket rocket if you plan on using coconut oil as a lube! And like any oil, coconut oil will inevitably leave you with an oily coating that’s hard for our water-based human tissue to break down. So whether or not you’re worried about coconut oil and condoms, water-based lubes are always a safer choice.

2. Coconut oil is not user-friendly.

Before you can use coconut oil for sex, you have to get it out of the jar. Ever try removing coconut oil from the jar on a cold winter day? It’s not fun — and we have several bent spoons to prove it. Now imagine that whole process getting in between you and your partner. Need we say more?

3. Coconut oil can cause allergic reactions.

Here again, a little awkwardness that might not bother you anywhere else becomes a real problem when it comes to sex. Because while you can easily test to see if you are allergic to coconut oil in your vagina, what happens when you’re dating someone new? “Hey, I’m really looking forward to this weekend. Could you smear this coconut oil on your penis and tell me if you get a rash? See you then!” On the other hand, if you break out the coconut oil lube without testing, you risk an unpleasant emergency exactly when you want it least.

4. Nobody knows whether coconut oil is actually safe.

Just because it’s safe (and delicious) to eat and cook with does not mean that it’s safe to use on your vaginal tissue. You might have noticed a few question marks in our rundown above, and a few more might occur to you.

  • Is coconut oil really safe for your vaginal flora?
  • Are there other biochemical interactions that we don’t know about yet?
  • Does any kind of oil really belong in your vagina?

It’s a delicate ecosystem in there, and to make things even more complicated, no two women are the same; because we all have different flora and a different balance, what’s healthy for one woman might invite infections for another.

Ultimately, what makes us hesitate is that there have been no scientific studies looking at the use of coconut oil as a personal lubricant, which means there is still a lot we don’t know about its effects. And edibility alone is not a determining factor in whether a substance is safe to use as a lubricant.

Safer Alternatives to Using Coconut Oil as Lube

When it comes down to it, there’s one key reason not to use coconut oil for lube: There are just better choices. Maybe coconut oil makes a safe lube, if you’re not using latex, if you and your partner aren’t allergic, if you don’t mind adapting your sex life to make it convenient … but there are other lubes that we know are safe, lubes that love latex, that won’t bother anyone’s allergies, and that are ready to go straight out of the box. And fortunately, Good Clean Love has been perfecting those other natural lubes since 2003.
What we recommend instead of coconut oil is a high-quality, water-based organic lubricant. We aren’t the only people in the world who make such products, but we do happen to think that ours are the best. Because our organic lubes are water-based, they go great with latex, and they’re all easy to use and safe to ingest. They’re free of major allergens, as well as from the petrochemicals, parabens, and glycerin that you find in so many other personal lubricants. They’re pH-balanced and salt-balanced, and they’ll play nice with your healthy vaginal flora.
For use during everyday intimacy, we recommend our Almost Naked Organic Personal Lubricant. This is our flagship product, aloe-based, body-safe — and, because we care as much as you do about the earth, carbon-neutral. If you just have a more sensitive vaginal ecosystem, we suggest BioNude Ultra Sensitive Personal Lubricant, which is designed to mimic natural feminine moisture. Finally, if lube is secondary and you’re really considering coconut oil for vaginal dryness, you should know about Restore Moisturizing Vaginal Gel, which is both a personal lubricant and a vaginal moisturizer that keeps you fresh and balanced all day long.
Can you use coconut oil for lube? Sure you can. Is it the best choice? Probably not. Maybe you’re not using latex, nobody’s allergic, and you don’t mind the mess — but even then, until we have some good scientific studies, using coconut oil as lube is a little risky. A high-quality, water-based organic lubricant is all you need to feel secure knowing that what’s helping you get wet isn’t also helping you get sick!

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What Can I Use As Lube?

Vaginas are notoriously delicate, so it’s important to use products that are safe and actually formulated for vaginal use. Otherwise, you’re putting yourself at risk of getting infections – and trust us, a yeast infection is not worth the time and money you save from using whatever’s at hand.

All sexual lubricants can fit into one of three categories, depending on what it’s made of: oil-based, water-based, and silicone-based. We’re going to focus on oil-based lubricants.

Oil-based lubricants are usually a great choice for people with sensitivities to the ingredients often used in other types of lubes. They don’t dissolve in water, making them the best option for sex in the shower. Plus, they’re long-lasting and moisturising. But oil-based lubes degrade latex, and therefore shouldn’t be used with condoms.

Coconut Oil As Lubricant

We know and love coconut oil because of its versatility. What is coconut oil used for? Or, more accurately, what isn’t it used for?

Thanks to its antifungal and moisturising properties, coconut oil is often used as a home remedy for troubled skin, dry hair, and various other health conditions. And now, people are starting to see its use in the bedroom as well.

Because of concerns over the side effects of some of the ingredients (e.g. parabens, glycerin, etc.) in most commercially-available lubricants, there’s been a clamour for organic, safe, and cheap alternatives. One of the most popular substitutes for synthetic lube is coconut oil.

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Coconut Oil As Lube FAQ

Is coconut oil lubricant safe for men and for women?

Medical experts have said that coconut oil is not only quite safe, but is also recommended often by ob-gyn’s and clinical sexologists. Plus, it can add a whole new (and tasty) dimension to oral sex.

However, there are still a few cases in which it’s best to use another type of lubricant. Each vagina has its unique flora, and yours may not agree with coconut oil – and may even put you at risk of getting an infection. And if you have a coconut allergy, you should obviously stay away.

Is it okay for pregnant women to use coconut oil lubricant?

Many women wonder if coconut oil is pregnancy-safe. The answer is: possibly, but it’s not worth the risk. There aren’t enough studies proving that coconut oil is 100% safe for pregnant women to use. And since coconut oil can cause infections in some women, it’s better to be safe than sorry and opt for a water or silicone-based lubricant instead.

Is it safe to use coconut oil as anal lube?

Anal sex is slightly different than vaginal intercourse because the anus doesn’t produce its own natural lubricants. This means you’ll need a lube that’s slippery and long-lasting. Because oil-based lubricants like coconut oil don’t dissolve as quickly as saliva or water-based lubes, they actually make a great option for anal lube.

Is coconut oil lube compatible with condoms?

Like all oil-based lubes, coconut oil should not be used with latex condoms. Oils can break down latex rubber, rendering the condom ineffective – putting you at risk of pregnancy and STIs. You can still use coconut oil with non-latex condoms, like polyurethane condoms, or if you’re using another form of contraception, like birth control pills. Just remember that non-barrier methods only prevent pregnancy; you can still contract STIs

Are there any risks or dangers when using coconut oil lube?

Besides taking care not to use coconut oil with condoms, there are a few other things you need to keep in mind. One is that coconut oil might not be the best choice for you if you’re prone to vaginal infections. Because coconut oil is antibacterial and antifungal, it could potentially disrupt the delicate pH balance of your vagina.

Another is that you need to take care of the kind of coconut oil you use. Some manufacturers add sugars, additives, and preservatives in their products, and all of these could do your vagina harm.

If you’re going to use coconut oil lube, stick to unrefined, virgin, or even extra virgin coconut oil. And take a sniff test, if possible, to make sure there aren’t any added fragrances or flavours!

Lastly, use only as much as needed. Too much oil can build up in your vagina, which could promote bad bacteria growth. And definitely wash up after sex to remove any oily residue!

How do I use coconut oil as lubricant?

Do a patch test. Dab a little bit of coconut oil on your skin (like in your inner arm or crook of the elbow) and wait 24 hours. If you are allergic to the product, you will notice itching, reddening, flushing, burning, or other symptoms.

If you’re not allergic, you can use the coconut oil as lube. Add a little bit of coconut oil on the vagina, penis, fingers, or sex toy. Spread it around until you’ve got good coverage. Add more when necessary, but be careful not to go overboard!

Coconut Oil Lube Alternatives

Pacific Organics Certified Organic Virgin Coconut Oil

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Nutiva Organic Virgin Coconut Oil

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Niulife Certified Organic Extra Virgin Coconut Oil

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WOO Coconut Love Oil

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Conclusion

Coconut oil is a popular natural personal lubricant that many women swear by. But even if it’s safe for most people, it’s definitely not for everyone. Always consult with your ob-gyn first before trying out a natural lubricant – your vagina will thank you in the long run.

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9 Weird Reasons Coconut Oil is Actually the Best Sex Toy

Coconut oil seems like it might just be the next big beauty fad which will quickly be replaced with another culinary ingredient. I know it’s difficult to believe that coconut oil might be what you’re missing from your sex life, especially after watching every beauty guru slather it all over their bodies and gargle with it. However, coconut oil is the real deal! Here are a few reasons why coconut oil might just be the single best sex toy.

  1. You know what you’re putting in your body

    One incredibly comforting thing about using coconut oil as lube is that you know exactly what you’re putting in your body.
    Some lubricants contain materials you wouldn’t even begin to know how to pronounce. Additionally, the sex toy industry has always gone virtually unsupervised by any governing body. Food and drugs have the FDA telling them what they can and cannot put in their products. However, because sex toys are considered novelty (this includes some lubricants), they don’t have to be cleared by the FDA.
    Now lubricants have to pass FDA certification to make it on the shelves. But that doesn’t mean they’re natural.
    If you like to limit the amount of processed, unnatural chemicals you are putting in your body, then you should consider using coconut oil as lube as coconut oil has one ingredient, and one ingredient only, listed on the packaging: coconut oil.

  2. Coconut oil is unlikely to throw off your vaginal balance

    While there is a risk that coconut oil can throw off your vaginal PH, which is somewhat delicate, it is improbable, especially when compared to other lubricants, condoms, and specially flavored lube.
    Test out how your body reacts to coconut oil a few times and then make a judgment as to whether this cooking oil is your new favorite secret ingredient to your sex life.

  3. It has some serious staying power

    One of the benefits of oil and silicone based lubricants is their staying power. While water based lube might be the least disruptive to the vaginal PH, they dissipate much quicker.
    Since coconut oil is purely an oil, it lasts much longer during sex. It is less likely to dissipate at fast rates, which means you can spend less time reapplying and more time playing.
    These slippery characteristics make coconut oil a favorite amongst those who love to get steamy in the shower. When you have shower sex, in the bath, or in water in general women tend to dry up down there. Water based lube dissipates quickly in water, however, oil based lube – and coconut oil! – don’t dissipate nearly as quickly.
    So if you’re planning on getting it on in the water, bring coconut oil. Not only will it keep everything moving smoothly, but it will also make your aquatic sexcapades feel like a tropical vacation.

  4. Coconut oil is a multipurpose tool for sexy time

    Anyone who knows their way around the bedroom knows that sex isn’t just about the physical act of penetration. Sex has everything to do with foreplay and all the kissing and touching going on while you’re getting it in.
    Coconut oil encourages you and your partner to get in there and really feel one another up. It would never cross your mind to rub traditional lube all over your partner’s body, but coconut oil is different. It not only acts as a lube in the bedroom but also as a massage oil.
    Warm some solid oil up in your hands to liquify it and give your partner a sensual back rub.
    Turn your bedroom into the kind of massage parlor every man (and woman) fantasizes about.

  5. Set the mood with the scent

    Coconut oil isn’t just a tactile wonder. This oil is also incredibly aromatic. The smell of sex intermingling with the scent of coconut oil is easily a fantastic recipe for passion.
    Like I said before: good sex has everything to do with what’s going on other than the act of sex itself. Setting an atmosphere that not only feels sensual but smells sensual is key to having a great night with your partner.
    So light some tropical smelling candles to compliment the light coconut scent of your natural lube/massage oil combo and deepen the vibes in the bedroom.

  6. Forget flavored lubes, this stuff is tasty

    Have you ever actually dared to taste flavored lube? I can almost guarantee that you just cringed while thinking back to the first and last time you dared put that sickly sweet stuff into your mouth. I’d easily categorize bringing flavored lube into the bedroom as a serious sexual misstep because it’s just that bad.
    Flavored lube is deeply problematic for a few reasons: the stuff is sticky, contains glucose which can throw off vaginal PH and cause yeast infections, and it doesn’t actually taste good!
    Aside from lube, I tasted at a sex shop in Capitola, Ca I have never tasted flavored lube that was at all pleasant.
    Coconut oil has a light coconutty flavor, which will tickle another one of your five senses sexily, and is unlikely plunge your vagina (or your penis) into the hell that is having a yeast infection.

  7. Moisterizing qualities

    The world is obsessed with 2-in-1 products. I would firmly classify coconut oil as being in that category (even though it has more than two functions as you can read above).
    You can skip moisturizing tonight if you use coconut oil as a lubricant. Hopefully, you and your partner engaged in some sensual massage as I suggested earlier because then you’re moisturized!
    Coconut oil is used to moisturize skin, repair dry damaged hair, and soothe razor burn. So slather this stuff on thick, because it can’t do much harm!

  8. Non-stick (as both a lube and a cooking ingrediant)

    What’s one of the worst qualities of lube? The fact that you have to clean it up.
    With coconut oil, there is little to no cleanup! This stuff won’t stain your sheets, make your hair sticky, or make the walk to the shower a slippery nightmare.
    Coconut oil feels more like a silky lotion than a sticky lube! Your body will soak in coconut oil, unlike lube which sits on the surface of your skin until you get in the shower.
    You can skip the shower after sex when you’re using coconut oil because you won’t be sticky or eternally slippery! Enjoy your coconut scented, moisturized, afterglow.

  9. One thing to keep in mind…

    Oil based lube of all kinds degrades latex condoms. This includes coconut oil, so if you have not reached a place where you are comfortable having unprotected sex with your partner avoid using coconut oil until you’re no longer using condoms in the bedroom.

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“There is nothing more feminine than a blowjob. You naked on your knees. Your guy with his hand resting on the back of your head. A really good blowjob confirms some primal nostalgia. It puts the world in balance.”

Chloe Thurlow

I am stepping way, way outside of my comfort zone as a writer and person to put this piece together; this is not usually my topic of choice and many of you who know me are probably, literally, thinking “Jac, what the fuck are you doing?”

Well, folks, you see I feel like someone needs to address this subject and since my two greatest talents were once well known as “rolling blunts and sucking dick” maybe I am qualified to speak on the matter.

“Did she just say sucking dick?”

Yes, yes I did.

Giving Head.

Fellatio.

Blowjobs.

Whatever you want to call it, that is EXACTLY what I am talking about.

I shared an article the other day from one of my favorite Facebook pages called My Tiny Secrets; the article was about How to Eat Pussy—if interested, click here.

As expected it got so much attention and even more interaction but, one comment stood out; it suggested that someone come up with an article on How to Give a Guy Head.

At first my inner Feminist (the comment was made by a man) was all huffy and puffy that he had the audacity to even ask but then I stopped and thought, what makes his request different than the article I just shared?

Then I asked the biggest question of all: have I ever even seen such an article?

Followed by:

Why doesn’t anyone talk about sucking dick, in a non-demeaning type of way?

Why are Feminists scared to say they love sucking dick—why is anyone scared to say it?

Why is it seen as something only “Sluts or freaks” do and are proud of?

Why is it viewed as a reward for remembering an anniversary, or “good behavior” instead of a regular, frequent, healthy part of a sexual relationship?

And the questions went on and on…

I mean…I am celibate and have not had a dick in my face in 3 years but I will still say, proudly, that I love sucking dick, and I am quite good at it. Full disclosure, I do not have a gag reflex and was taught some tricks of the trade by one of my favorite gays; still, sucking dick, just like eating pussy, is an art form and it’s okay to not know what you’re doing.

Furthermore, it’s okay if you don’t want to do it.

This leads me to my first tip (pun totally intended, ha)

YOU HAVE TO WANT TO SUCK IT: As with all forms of intimacy, from personal conversations, touch, straight down to sexual acts, there must be a want, a desire behind the action or else there is no purpose in doing it in the first place. We all know that everything is energy but, sexual energy is the life force; it’s strong, powerful, potent, and should be respected. It’s totally cool if oral sex is not your thing, some people really *don’t* like it; if that is the case for you then you need to be open and honest with your partner. You should never do something simply because you believe it will please another or keep them in your life; seek out someone who accepts you as you are. To sum it up, if you don’t want to suck it (or eat pussy) then don’t! Sex is most pleasurable when both partners are wholly present and involved in what is going on.

SIZE DOESN’T MATTER: A dick is a dick, and of course inches may determine how far it can go in your mouth, it does not determine how enjoyable the sex will be. This is a huge point to make because for many Women that I speak to, they equate a big dick with a good lay and well, I can speak from experience that this is not always the case. I think there is far too much pressure put on men to have a decent sized dick, and honestly, it’s ridiculous. Sex is a huge part of a relationship but it is not all of it, and if you are judging your partner on the size of their dick then you need to re-evaluate yourself.

GRAB THAT COCONUT OIL: This is something that I learned after finding out that I have an autoimmune disease called Sjogren’s, which causes dry mouth and dry eyes, among other symptoms.

Fact is, you need a wet mouth to suck dick, so when in need, improvise. Coconut oil not only tastes good, it adds an amazing texture; it also becomes creamy and white the more you lick, suck and flick so visually it’s sloppy, and kinky. Using a lube like coconut oil also helps create that sucking and gushing sound that so many men (and women) like. Even if you do not have dry mouth like I experience at times, I highly suggest adding coconut oil during your next head session. This works for pussy eating, too!

FIND HIS G-SPOT: As many people know the male G-spot is located inside the rectum but it can also be stimulated from the outside. The internal method involves inserting a finger, plug, dildo or another object of choice into the rectum, slowly, and with some kind of lubrication (coconut oil is preferred, but saliva can work, too) and gently stimulating the perineum; this is located near the prostate.

The area can be stimulated externally by taking your first two fingers and gently massaging and applying slight pressure to the perineum (this is the area between the testicles and anus and is a highly erogenous zone). You want to stimulate the G-spot while also stimulating the shaft and/or balls (in laymen’s terms, you want to stimulate while you suck)

Start slowly, your man will tell you if it’s too much or not enough. Be warned, the orgasm created from such stimulation will be the most intense orgasm he has ever had.

DON’T LET THE FORESKIN SCARE YOU: In American culture it is fairly common for men to be circumcised so when a woman runs across a dick that is uncircumcised she thinks it’s gross, unclean, and I have even heard women make jokes about choking on the foreskin; as if that is funny, or can’t be overcome. I mean, maybe, just maybe, you’re sucking too hard…

Do your research about foreskin and circumcision before forming an opinion, and for that very reason I will supply a link at the bottom.

If properly cleaned (regular, mild soap and water with a little pulling back of the skin) you are good to go.

I am not going to get started on how unethical I believe circumcision to be, and in reality it is NO DIFFERENT than the Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) everyone cries out about (I am against this as well, duh). My point is that an uncircumcised penis is natural and should be celebrated just as much as a penis that has been cut.

We need to support our men in all of their variations and sizes, just as we expect them to accept us.

So suck it, flick it, lick it, tease it, and enjoy it!

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These days, people are using coconut oil for everything: sautéing veggies, moisturizing their skin and hair, and even whitening their teeth. But gynecologists are the latest to notice another use: Many women are stashing the pantry staple in their bedside table, too-using it as lube, says Jennifer Gunter, M.D., an ob-gyn at Kaiser Permanente Medical Center in San Francisco. “I’ve had patients asking about it.” (It makes sense since natural and organic lube is a new trend.)

Is it safe to use coconut oil as lube?

There haven’t been any studies looking at the safety of coconut oil as a lubricant, she explains. “So far it seems safe-I haven’t had any patients report any negative side effects.” Plus, it’s natural, preservative free, and affordable compared with traditional lubricants you find at the drugstore.

“In my practice, many women who experience vaginal dryness, have chemical sensitivities, or vulvar sensitivities report really liking it,” Gunter says. An added bonus: Coconut oil contains natural antifungal properties so it could help reduce the risk of infections when using it. (Serious-coconut oil has some amazing health benefits.) But still be sure to wipe it off after sex, as usual, and certainly don’t douche-ever.

How to use coconut oil as lube

Coconut oil has a low melting point so as soon as you rub it in your hands, it will melt and you’re good to go. Use it before a roll in the hay just as you would any other type of lubricant during foreplay and sex, Dr. Gunter says.

And when shopping for the spread, make sure to check that the ingredients list only one item-coconut oil-to ensure you’re not absorbing other products that could potentially cause a reaction. Even if your current lube gets the job done, you may want to take a gander at the ingredients, too. “Stay away from lubricants with glycerin and parabens as these products can break down to irritants,” Dr. Gunter says. (Here’s your full guide to buying-and using-the right lube.)

But before you dive into this tropical trend, make sure you’re not allergic by rubbing some on your arm and watching the area for about a day for any redness, itching, or irritation. Return the favor by testing it on your guy’s skin too.

V important heads up: It’s not a good idea to use coconut oil as lube if you’re having protected sex. “Don’t use coconut oil if you’re using latex condoms,” Gunter adds. Oils and petroleum products-like Vaseline-may weaken latex and increase the risk of breakage. You don’t have to forgo the slippery stuff with a condom-just be sure to use a polyurethane condom if you’re lubing up with coconut oil, which won’t break down in the presence of the oil. (Here are more risky condom mistakes you could be making.)

And remember this: If you’re trying to conceive, you may want to skip this “wonder” oil-and most others, for that matter. Many lubricants have been shown to change the pH in the vagina and hurt how well sperm swim, so they have a tougher time reaching their target. Although it isn’t known whether coconut oil may have the same effect, stick with Pre-Seed-a recent study in the Journal of Assisted Reproduction and Genetics found it has the smallest effect on sperm function compared to nine other popular lubes.

  • By By Paige Fowler

Make Your Own Lube

It’s no secret that lube is a game changer in the bedroom, but homemade lube? Is that a thing? We are here to say that YES! It is absolutely a “thing” and you’re going to want to try it out ASAP! We’ve compiled a list of the BEST natural lube alternatives to store bought lube and you’re going to love these! To each their own with lube preferences, but this list has several different options with varying ingredients, so you’re bound to find something you like. We have no doubt that you’ll find an idea (or two…or more!) that rocks your world in the bedroom! Grab some pen and paper to write down these simple recipes. Then get ready to try out these homemade lubes!

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Maybe you didn’t know it was possible, but making homemade lube is actually REALLY easy and quite comfortable when made properly! We figured that it could be hard to determine what was the BEST homemade lube recipe when doing your own research, so we did it for you! We searched, evaluated, and tested out these lube alternatives and we’re thrilled to present them to you (and your benefitting partner) for use and pleasure! So let’s dive in, shall we?

Homemade Lube Recipes

Before we share with you this awesome list of homemade lube recipes, we recommend consulting with your physician or doctor to ensure that any of these ingredients wouldn’t harm you or cause a reaction. While all of these recipes provide natural ingredients, the human body is quite the organism and could react differently for everyone! We definitely want your experience with homemade lube to be a good one, so just keep that in mind. Now, on to the recipes!

  • Love Lotion Homemade Lubricant – The peace of mind of a homemade lube meets the best sensual massage lotion…That’s this Love Lotion Homemade Lubricant! This would make a great gift to give to your hunny! But, in case you aren’t in the DIY mood, this is also a Diva favorite! There’s also an option to turn this homemade lube into an edible lubricant. Worth a try!
  • The Homemade Lube That Will Change Your Life – With a title like that, you know it’s got to be good! And the best part? This only requires ONE ingredient! Definitely need to try this out!
  • Chocolate Body Butter Lube – Yes indeed, you did read that right! There is in fact a CHOCOLATE lube recipe that is incredibly easy to make AND super delicious 😉 I think your sweetheart will enjoy this one if they have a sweet tooth!
  • Corn Starch Lube – Another inexpensive recipe that you might already have what you need on hand! This recipe has the added benefit of being able to customize it to the consistency you like.
  • Flax Seed Lube – Because flax seeds release oils and starches when boiled, this natural lubricant recipe creates a slippery personal lubricant that is more gel-like. Keep this recipe on hand if slippery is more your preference!
  • Coconut Oil with Essential Oils Lube – Essential oils have so many benefits, but adding them to your homemade lube might be one of the greatest! Due to their natural properties, they will bring out the best of sensations. Try this recipe out for a sensational experience!
  • Aloe Vera Lube – I’m sure you can recall the cooling sensation that aloe vera gel brings you. Imagine that in a lube form and you have this homemade lube! The upgrade to this though is the added flax seed and peppermint oils, sending that cooling sensation over the edge! Would highly recommend this one!
  • Water Based Lube – There are some drawbacks to using oil based lubricants, so if that is an issue for you, this water based lube recipe is perfect! While it requires arrowroot and getting the right consistency, the benefits in the bedroom will prove well worth it!
  • Homemade Natural Lubricant – Another option using natural ingredients and essential oils that has proven pleasure! The essential oils on this recipe specifically have added heath benefits too!
  • Kitchen Oils – According to this article, you can simply use basic cooking oils as personal lubricants, such as avocado, sesame, olive, and grape seed oil. If you have them, why not try them?

We can’t wait for you to try out these recipes! And while you’re introducing something new into the bedroom, why not try a game or too to spice things up even more? This list of bedroom games is FULL of suggestions that we’re, ahem, confident you’ll find something you will enjoy! 😉 Make it a whole date night and make more than lube together…You could have your own DIY Fondue night and really get those senses going!

Best of luck in the kitchen (and the bedroom!)

Coconut oil has been all the rage lately from a hair product to a weight loss enhancer to a teeth whitener and a fungus fighter.

The uses of coconut oil are endless!

All you need to do is Google “ways to use coconut oil,” and dozens of articles will pop up. Because of its many benefits, this liquid gold has been dubbed a “superfood.” And while the benefits of this oil are plentiful, there are a few other fun ways to put all that oil to excellent use.

And what else can we use this oil for? How about some well-deserved sexy time? That’s right! Use that innocent little jar of cold pressed coconut oil in many imaginative ways.

There are a variety of sexy reasons to take your coconut oil from your kitchen shelf to your nightstand. Whether that’s between the sheets, in a warm bath or front of a fireplace

First, let’s get one thing straight. When you buy coconut oil, make sure you’re buying the PURE stuff! Flip that bottle around and read the label. The only ingredient on that label should be coconut oil, plain and simple.

If there are any other ingredients listed on that label, you might as well be rolling around in canola oil. Check that label because anything that’s not pure may become an irritant to your skin.

Pay attention and read the label.

We found one of the best coconut oils you can purchase here.

After you’ve discovered that what you’ve found is pure coconut deliciousness, it’s time to get your sexy on.

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How To Use Coconut Oil To Increase Your Sex Life

OPTION I: INCREASE YOUR SEX DRIVE

Before we get into the juicy uses for coconut oil, did you know that eating it increases your sex drive? Eating clean makes you feel better, and when you feel better, sex is more enjoyable!

Eating clean involves incorporating healthy, whole foods into your diet. Good fats, which coconut oil is, are part of a healthy, well-rounded diet.

Another cool fact is that it improves libido! Research shows that consuming 2-3 tablespoons of virgin coconut oil could improve your sex drive.

The research team from the University of St. Thomas studied the effects of coconut oil. The research was based on the consumption of 189 people.

110 participants took 3 tablespoons of virgin coconut oil every day. The remaining 79 received a placebo.

Of the 110, 13% were sexually active during the duration of the study, citing an increased sex drive.

Coconut oil contains antioxidants that break down free radicals. Remember that these free radicals cause a lowered libido and sex drive.

Additionally, adrenal fatigue, a health condition, can lower your libido.

Adrenals are the glands above our kidneys. They secrete hormones and influence our energy, metabolism, sleep, and sexual organs. Because of the hard work they do, our adrenal glands are always hard at work. They need proper care.

To provide proper care, we can consume iodine-rich foods, such as coconut oil. Minerals such as iodine help sustain and give life to our adrenal glands. It can provide the exact stimulation your libido might be needing.

OPTION II: COCONUT OIL OFFERS A SEXY MASSAGE

Let’s take a moment and imagine that perfect evening. You’ve just had an incredible dinner. With the candles lit and the wine is almost finished.

Soft music is playing in the background, and it’s only you and your boo. You look at your lover, and they ask, “so, what do you want to do?” You flash a devilish grin and walk over to the coconut oil.

Warm the oil between your hands while your lover gets undressed. You then begin to massage your lover.

Take your time rubbing oil everywhere. Watch your lover’s skin as it shimmers in the soft candlelight. You then proceed to….OK, and we won’t go that far…back to reality here.

This magical oil is the perfect oil for a massage. It melts into your skin and mixes well with essential oils, plus it is 100% natural.

Because coconut oil is 100% natural, it also makes it edible, which is a sexy bonus! Also, unlike other edible massage oils, it isn’t sticky. It has a pleasant, light taste and smells like a tropical breeze.

Giving a massage to your partner is a great way to spice up your love life. When giving (and receiving) massages, you’re spending time with your partner.

Discover what feels good on each other’s bodies. This intimate experience is extreme!

The most important thing is you’re connecting. You are connecting through touch and intuition. Breathing together and creating unusual, full-body sensations.

OPTION III: EDIBLE BODY PAINT

Painting your partner’s body and then take your time as you lick it off is a sexy way to keep the fun going.

Luckily, this oil is an ideal ingredient to combine with either cacao or cocoa powder. These two ingredients make a delicious, nutritious edible paint.

Mix the coconut oil, coco/cacao powder, and honey in a small bowl until it makes a paste. The amount of each ingredient is up to you and your preferences. Once the paste is ready, let your imagination run wild.

Don’t be shy about using your bodies as a canvas. You can make intricate designs or have a little fun and make it silly. Bodypaint is a sensual and delicious way to make your time together with each other a little sexier.

OPTION IV: STEAMY COCONUT OIL BATH

Nothing feels better after a massage than a nice, warm bath.

Before your bath, add a generous heap of coconut oil to the water and hop in together.

If there are any essential oils nearby, throw those in as well. Lavender, cedarwood, and sage are all great fragrances. The essential oils help to make the bathwater relaxing and sensual.

Let the warm water wash over you as you continue to explore each other’s bodies. Be creative, as EVERY body part can benefit from a gentle, soothing massage in the bath.

Soak in the luxurious warmth of this natural tropical oil. Your body is drenching itself in natural moisturizers.

The steamy heat creates an ever-so-intimate setting. When you’re finished with sexy-tub-time, be sure to dry each other off. Take your time. The drying off experience is one of the fun parts.

OPTION V: TAKE COCONUT OIL TO THE BEDROOM

Sexy bath time is over, and it’s time to take things to the bedroom (or wherever you want to get it on). Be sure to bring the coconut oil with you, as the final act is about to ensue. As you spread out on the bed, keep that coconut oil close by because you can use it as lube!

Using coconut oil as a lubricant during foreplay is a natural, tasty way to get things going in the sack.

But store-bought lubricants that contain parabens and glycerin.

This oil is all-natural and will leave your skin feeling soft and supple.

The problem with said parabens and glycerin is that they can break down into irritants. But guess what! There are no such problems with coconut oil!

We encourage you to smear the coconut oil all over your partner (as explained in options II and III).

Foreplay is vital for good sex. Engaging in activities that are arousing helps both parties to lubricate and ‘harden’ up naturally. And when you’re combining coconut oil with foreplay, the sky’s the limit! Get creative and try things out that you’ve never tried before.

Because certain, uh, ‘parts’ are all greased up, it should allow for easy access and smooth transitions.

Try using oily pleasure in all of your sexual endeavors.

Trust me! Once you start to use it, you won’t want to stop. Using it with your partner will change your sex-life in all the RIGHT ways.

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IMPORTANT TIP:

Keep in mind that if you are lubed up with this oily goodness that you should be careful with condoms.

I’m not advocating that you have sex without condoms, by any means. But I am saying that if your partner is covered in coconut oil and he has a condom on, it might come off.

Also, ANYTHING oil-based will degrade latex condoms. The oil will cause it to deteriorate and break. So, if condoms are your means of protection, then switching to a polyurethane variety would be best.

Before we end on that ever-so-steamy public service announcement, please keep in mind that coconut oil doesn’t have to be used ONLY with your partner(s).

You can also use this oil solo (and I don’t mean cooking).

If you find yourself in need of little, “me” time, crack that bottle open, and go to town. You’ll love the way it feels, again, moisturizing and pleasing all at the same time.

Did I mention that coconut oil has antibacterial properties?

That’s right, ladies! (Gentlemen too, but this is mostly for the ladies.) This magical tropical oil contains anti-fungal properties that help reduce the risk of infection.

Not only is coconut oil magical in many sexy ways, but it also protects and disinfects. WIN-WIN!

So what are you waiting for? Is there coconut oil at your disposal? If not, go out and get some… NOW! If you do have some, I think…

IT’S TIME TO GET A LITTLE CREATIVE AND VERY NAUGHTY

Please share with us in the comments below the special ways you have incorporated coconut oil.

9 Sex Hacks For Better Orgasms, Because Using Coconut Oil As Lube May Change Your Life

When I say “sex hacks” I’m not talking about easy ways to get your partner off in three minutes, because you’ve got to watch the newest Netflix rom-com and are too lazy to put in work. I’m not talking about pressing any buttons or claiming there’s a one-size-fits-all method when it comes to orgasming. If that’s what you’re looking for, go read a men’s magazine. But you should know, they’re probably all lies. When I say “sex hacks” what I mean is, let’s talk about how to have better sex.

There are fun secrets that you learn over the span of your life as a sexually active being, and if you’re a good person, you share them with your community. In times of need, you might resort to your kitchen for what ends up being the best lube of all time, or maybe you realize what you needed all along was just a pair of socks. Sex hacks are just an easy way of saying, “Here are some things that might improve your sex life.”

The best part about sex hacks is that everyone has them. I asked my best friend what kind of sex hacks she uses in the bedroom and received way too much information about cock rings (see below). So get comfy, microwave some coconut oil, do some Kegels, and orgasm away.

1. Use Your Brain

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Can you guess what the largest sexual organ is? Hint: It’s not the guy’s junk who is driving a yellow hummer with a pair of testicles hanging off the back. It’s your brain! I’m not just saying that because I think all of your minds, values, and autonomous opinions as strong and independent women are important. I’m saying that because it’s true. Desire, fantasies, and the recognition of sexual stimuli all come from your brain, and you can use them to trigger an orgasm. Try paying attention to visuals, scents, and scenarios that get you off and make them present during sex. Who knew the Cinnabon scented candle at Bath and Body Works would have so many uses?

2. Coconut Oil As Lube

Coconut oil as a multi-purpose, unicorn-like ingredient isn’t a new or revolutionary discovery. But what is new is the realization that the best smelling stuff on Earth can also be used during sex as an organic, yummy alternative to drugstore lube brands. (Reviewers especially love the one below from Nature’s Way). Not only does it feel, taste, but it smells good, too. Important tip: Don’t use use coconut oil (or any oil for that matter) with latex condoms. It’ll weaken the latex and result in tears. Also, you may want to avoid using coconut oil as lube if you or your partner are prone to yeast infections.

3. Coconut Oil, Always And Forever

Microwave it for a few seconds so it’s warm to the touch and use it as a massage oil before sex. Not only will it feel fantastic, but it’ll leave your skin moisturized and delicious.

4. Find You And Your Partner’s Erogenous Zones

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You already know what they are, I just gave them a name. Erogenous zones are essentially your sexual pressure points — places on the body with a high concentration of nerve endings that will trigger arousal when stimulated. OK, OK, I’ll cut the science talk. They’ll make you super horny. Erogenous zones can be anywhere, but some common places are the neck, the ears, the lower back, and the inner thigh. So, why is it a sex hack? It’s useful to know that when you kiss someone’s body, you’re not just doing it to tease them. You’re actually enhancing their sexual experience. And if you really want to kill the mood, look deep into their eyes and say, “Stimulate my erogenous zones, baby.”

5. Put Pillows Under Your Chest

Who says comfy sex can’t be great sex? If you’re on all fours having sex from behind, stack up some pillows — or use a sex pillow, like the Liberator wedge below — to give your chest a place to rest. It’ll take the weight off of your arms and make you feel like you’re having an orgasm on a pile of clouds.

6. Kegels

Ah, the Kegel. You probably already know about it, but in case you don’t, I’ll clue you in. The Kegel is an exercise used to strengthen the pelvic floor (to identify which muscles to work out, stop your pee midstream. Now do that throughout the day when you’re not peeing!) and they’re important and necessary for numerous reasons even if they seem like a joke. Not only will they strengthen your bladder, but they can also contribute to a stronger, more powerful orgasm!

Pro tip: Check out the Minna Life kGoal for a more fun way to do kegel exercises.

7. Wear Socks

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According one study, a common complaint among people having sex was being cold! So, they gave them socks to wear. Obviously. And guess what? Their orgasms increased by 30 percent. Once people were cozy, they were able to focus on their own sexual climax much better. Who knew it could all be so simple?

8. Be Nice To Each Other

People who feel confident have better, healthier sex. It’s just a fact of life. So compliment each other, point out what you love about your partner’s body, braid their hair, whatever.

9. Learn Your Partner’s Anatomy

Because if you know where everything is, you’ll know how to get around. Nothing is worse than someone who doesn’t know the difference between a clitoris and an elbow.

4 Reasons to Keep Coconut Oil in the Bedroom

Coconut oil is often considered a miracle cure, as it can help with so many things. People use it for shiny hair and soft skin, to clean their teeth and freshen their breath, and add it to their food for loads of health benefits.

It is something you should always have in the house, including your bedroom. Here are some different reasons to keep coconut oil in the bedroom.

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You Have Instant Moisturizer

While there are a lot of different DIY products you can make by using coconut oil as an ingredient, like these coconut oil foot creams, you don’t necessarily need some fancy balm or concoction just to get good use out of it. All you really need to do is keep a container of it in your bedroom on your nightstand, then use a little bit in the palm of your hand whenever you need some moisturizer. It is a great option for ashy elbows, dry ankles, or to moisturize any part of your skin when you’re in a pinch.

Coconut oil is edible and safe to use on the skin but an added benefit is its anti-bacterial and antioxidant properties that actually help the ladies to keep their privates healthy. This means that coconut oil is an incredible option to use as a lubricant when sexy time comes around. It can also double as a massage oil that tastes so much better than those edible ones on the market and is actually beneficial for your skin. Just be careful with this option if condoms are your choice of protection as oils can have a negative effect on the efficacy of condoms.

It Works For Those Itchy Dogs

This is something not a lot of people think about when they are in bed. If you have a dog that struggles with itchy skin, no matter what you do, then you know how frustrating it is to watch your dog uncomfortable and scratching all night. Plus the sound of your dog scratching constantly can disrupt your sleep quite a bit. To help your dog and yourself, keep some coconut oil in the bedroom that you can apply to your dog’s skin before bed. It is safe to use on dogs and will help a lot with the itchy skin, plus help take care of the redness and irritation. You should test a small area first to make sure it doesn’t give your dog any negative reactions.

You Can Remove Your Eye Makeup

If you forget to wash your face before bed and don’t want to head back to the bathroom, you can simply keep some coconut oil in your bedroom to remove your eye makeup quickly and easily. Just keep a jar of coconut oil and some cotton balls in your bedroom.

Coconut Oil is the Perfect Night Cream

Your face is not the only place you might want to moisturize at night. You can also use your coconut oil on the bedside table as a night cream, such as a hand cream to wake up to soft hands, or even on your feet if you also like to moisturize them before bed. Having it in the bedroom makes it really easy to use on any dry skin.

Be sure to use organic, extra virgin coconut oil that is cold pressed for best results, especially if you will be using it inside your body.

Related: Why You May Want to Keep Coconut Oil in The Bathroom As Well

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