Doggy Style is the perfect position if you like feeling submissive while your man takes control. It’s easy to perform, and as you’ll see below, there are plenty of heavenly variations of Doggy Style. Of course, you can always see the rest of the 119 sex positions here.

To perform Doggy Style with your man, you need to get down on your hands and knees with your legs spread apart. Then your guy gets down on his knees and enters you from behind.

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What The Girl Does In The Doggy Style Position

When you are in the Doggy Style position, you don’t have to do much other than stay in position. If you want harder penetration, then you can push back onto your man with each stroke. Or you can use one hand to masturbate during it. You can change the angle he is penetrating you at by arching your back either downwards or upwards, along with moving your upper body either up or down.

What The Guy Does In The Doggy Style Position

Your man will be thrusting in and out when you are in the Doggystyle position. But there are a bunch of simple things that he can do to change it up and add some very exciting variation in.

  • If he leans backward or forwards a little, he can alter the angle of entry.
  • When your man is behind you, he is in the perfect position to reach around and start rubbing your clit or even finger you if you are having anal sex.
  • Your man can have his legs inside your legs. Or he can have them outside your legs. Try both to see what you find most satisfying.
  • If you like your man being dominant, then he can spank you from behind during Doggy Style. He can also grab your hair while riding you.
  • If you like more intense sex, then he can grab your waist and pull you into him with each thrust. Another option is for him to grab your shoulders to pull you in.
  • For more sensual sex, he can lightly scratch your back.

As with all positions, make sure to give your man plenty of feedback so that he can figure out what you enjoy and what you don’t. This guide on sexual communication will help.

How To Enhance Doggy Style Sex

Along with the advice above, there are some other great things you can do to add some extra pleasure to Doggy Style.

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Pushing Back – Just because your man is in the dominant position doesn’t mean that you have to be entirely passive. You can push back on your man for more explosive sex.

Pillow Under Hips – Another trick that your man can use is putting a soft pillow under your hips and grabbing either side of it. This way he can pull you into him with a lot of force without having to grab your sides and potentially hurt you.

Hands Tied – If BDSM and getting dominated by your man is what you are after, then get him to tie your hands behind your back beforehand, so he is in total control. Just remember that having a safeword is paramount for this.

Hand on Head – Another way your man can exert his control over you is to grab your hair and push your head down. This is not everyone’s cup of tea, but if you like feeling your man dominate you, then you’ll enjoy this.

Getting Tired? – If you find that your arms are getting tired from being in this position, then try doing it on the floor beside a bed or a sofa so that you can rest your head, shoulders and upper body on it and take the weight off your hands.

It’s Hot, But Not Intimate – While Doggy Style is a super hot sex position, it’s not particularly intimate. If you’re looking for something more intimate, then check out the Drill position or Spooning.

Variations of Doggy Style & Similar Positions

Turtle

You’re going to reach back and wrap your arms around the back of your thighs in the Turtle position. .

Bulldog

Your man is going to be on his feet in the Bulldog position. .

Frog Leap

In the Frog Leap position, you are going to be on your feet, squatting while your man is on his knees. .

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Prison Style

You will both be standing during the Prison Style position, with your man holding your hands/arms. .

Stairway to Heaven

Stairway to Heaven is Doggy Style done on a staircase. Perfect if you can’t make it to your bedroom! .

Sean’s Thoughts On The Doggy Style Position

I thoroughly enjoy Doggy Style. It certainly isn’t the most intimate lovemaking position you’ll ever have sex in, but it can be really hot, especially if I am holding onto my girl at the waist, shoulders or hair.

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7 Reasons to Give Doggy Style Sex Another Shot

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Serious question: What’s more pleasurable, a colonoscopy or doggy style? Some vulva-owners—especially those who are far too familiar with the jack rabbit-speed doggy style sex—will probably tell you both lack romance, intimacy, and comfort. So, if you’re feeling pretty *thumbs down emoji* about the doggy style position, you’re not alone.

“Doggy style gets a bad rep because there’s no eye-contact and it’s not seen as being as ‘intimate’ as, say, the missionary position,” confirms sex educator, August McLaughlin, author of Girl Boner and Girl Boner Journal. Thing is, facing away from each other isn’t necessarily a bad thing, she says. If you ever feel self-conscious about the face you make during sex, doggy style can make you feel free to let loose, explains McLaughlin.

Plus, “if you rule out doggy style sex, you can really miss out on some of the great potential benefits of the position” (like G-spot and A-spot stimulation, breast play, and more), she says. That’s why, if you’ve got a ready and willing partner, you can make some tweaks to the doggy style sex position and give it another shot. (Related: The Best Sex Positions for Women)

Below, McLaughlin along with Candice Smith, M.Ed, the resident sex expert for My First Blush share everything they know about doggy style, including eight reasons to put the position back in rotation.

Doggy Style Sex Position 101

Let’s start with a quick refresher: “Doggy style is when one partner is positioned behind the other and penetrates their vagina or anus from behind, using a toy, penis, or finger,” says McLaughlin. Typically, this happens with the receiving partner positioned in a hands-and-knees stance on all fours. But you’ve actually got options.

“Doggy style is an incredibly customizable rear-entry position,” says Smith. “Doggy can be done standing, kneeling, lying on your side or your stomach, while bent over the couch, up against a wall…whatever strikes your fancy.”

Ready for more intel on the OG sex position? Keep reading for reasons why doggy style sex is soooo good.

1. It’s best for G-spot stimulation.

Named after the first doctor to describe it in medical literature, Ernst Gräfenber, the G-spot is a penny-sized pleasure-point that’s about two inches deep on the front vaginal wall. You’ve probably heard you can find this spot by making a come-hither stroking motion with your fingers inside your vagina—this is true. But it can also be stimulated through doggy style sex.

“Your partner will be able to best hit your G-Spot if you lower your torso toward the bed,” says McLaughlin. So, let your upper-body relax and ask to have your partner thrust slow and shallow. Remember, the G-spot is only an inch or two or three inside the vaginal wall, so no need to go drilling for treasure.

2. …and A-spot stimulation.

A few inches deeper than the aforementioned G-spot, the anterior fornix erogenous zone (as it’s ~formally~ called) is located deep inside the vagina between the cervix and the bladder. “The angle of entry during doggy style sex enables the deep penetration necessary for stimulating this pleasure point,” explains McLaughlin.

Depending on the length of your partner’s penis/dildo/finger, they may be able to stimulate your A-spot while you’re on all fours. If not, dropping onto your elbows will open you up even more and allow your partner to plunge deeper into your body, she suggests. Another option: Lay flat on your tummy and have your partner lie on top of you, like two stacked pancakes.

According to McLaughlin, some people may experience an “A-spot orgasm” from very deep penetration, while others may have a blended orgasm if they combine this sensation with some clitoral attention. (Related: The Best Clit Vibrators, According to Sex Educators).

3.You can control the depth.

If you feel nervous about giving doggy style a go specifically because you find deep penetration uncomfortable or even painful, good news: “There are ways to enjoy the position without all the depths,” according to Smith. (FYI: Anal sex should never ever be painful. If it is, you’re not going slow enough or using enough lube.)

She has three main tips.

  • Bring your legs closer together: “The closer your legs are together, the tighter your vaginal canal becomes, the less deep your partner is able to get,” she explains. “This also gives your partner access to kiss, lick, or bite your shoulders or back of your neck and brings them close enough to whisper naughty thoughts into your ear.” (Related: How to Talk Dirty During Sex).
  • Take control: “Instead of letting your partner control the thrusts, you can take over the movements,” she says. “Swivel your hips, twerk, do figure eight’s, bump and grind all over your partner in a way that is pleasurable (and not too deep) for you.”
  • Use a physical barrier: While a cock ring may do the trick, Smith suggests the Ohnut, which is a squishy set of stackable rings that slip over a penis/dildo and acts as a bumper between your partner’s shaft and your vagina during penetration.

4. You can bring your butt into the action.

Doggy style is an equal orifice opportunist sex position. Think about it: Your asshole is *right* there. “It’s a great position for anal sex,” confirms McLaughlin. To try it, lube up your anus and your partner’s condom-clad penis/dildo. Then, have them press the tip against your butthole and slowly apply pressure while you press back into the sensation. “Many folks with vulvas are surprised by how good this can feel if they start smooth and slow,” she says. Why does it feel so good? Anal penetration can indirectly stimulate the A-spot. (Related: The Best Anal Sex Positions).

Her suggestion: Once you find a rhythm, rub your clitoris or use a vibrator. Stimulating your clitoris will enhance your enjoyment of the whole shebang,” she says. (Related: The Best Wand Vibrators for Intense Pleasure)

You might even try double-penetration, says Smith. “Your partner can use a finger to penetrate your vagina while their inside your anus. Or, finger your butthole while penetrating your vagina.” Just remember not to go from the back hole back to the front hole. Doing do can transfer lingering bacteria from your anus to your vagina, which can increase your risk for a UTI.

5. You’re in a great position for oral sex.

“You can get into the doggy style receiver position, and forgo penetration,” says Smith. (Yes really!) “Being on all fours allows for great access for your partner to perform cunnilingus or to give you a rim job,” she says.

In addition to generally feeling ahhmazing, this type of oral play before sex can help make the doggy style position (or any sex position, for that matter) more enjoyable. The vagina naturally expands as you get aroused, so foreplay is imperative for pleasure, she says. (More: 6 Facts You Don’t Know About Your Vagina But Probably Should).

6. It doesn’t require a bed.

If you and your partner love quickies or having sex in unconventional locations (read: *not* in the bedroom), doggy style—specifically standing doggy style—is perfect. You can do it in the shower, over the bathroom sink, in a stairwell, a broken-down elevator, a maintenance/coat closet, or…well, anywhere.

7. It actually *can* be intimate.

Look, you might not know it from watching doggy style porn, but doggy style can be more connected than carnal. “Have your partner enveloped you from behind, almost like you’re spooning so that their arms are wrapped firmly around you,” suggests McLaughlin. Make it more intimate still by laying flat on the bed so that every inch of your back is covered by their skin, she says.

You could consider placing a mirror in front of you, for a more real and raw twist on doggy style, she says. “Locking eyes via your reflections can heighten intimacy, and watching yourselves play can boost arousal. It’s almost like starring in and watching an erotic film at the same time.” Plus, if your partner closes their eyes in a moment of ecstasy, you’ll get to watch just how much they’re enjoying it and you. Yeah, H-O-T.

Of course, if you’re craving something more intimate still, you can always return to good ‘ole missionary.

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12 reasons why doggy style is the best sexual position there is

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Every position, from missionary to reverse cowgirl, has its benefits. However, it’s doggy style that continues to smash the charts and has even previously been voted as the UK’s favourite sexual position. And, as if being the best position to hit the G-spot isn’t reason enough for you to dig doggy style, here are 12 reasons why doggy style is the best sexual position there is.

1. A bit more about that G-spot Your partner’s penis is naturally tilted slightly downwards and, in doggy style, it rubs up against the G-spot as a result. And if it’s good enough for mother nature…

2. You’re more in control than you think And there are plenty of fun variations and nifty tricks to give you control over the depth of penetration, including lowering yourself onto your elbows to increase it or reducing the arch in your back to decrease it.

3. Sex isn’t always pretty And there’s a reason people’s cum faces are a bit of a running joke. So while some love nothing more than gazing into the eyes of their beloved mid orgasm, for others, the idea of being able to contort your face in ecstasy in relative privacy is welcomed – and that’s where doggy comes in handy.

4. But you can enjoy the show Alternatively, if watching gets you off, there is no sexier position than doggy style in front of a mirror to turn up the heat and send your partner wild as you throw him a sultry glance mid-thrust.

5. It’s flattering Because what’s not to love about the graceful curve of a back (and a smokin’ ass in your face.)

6. It’s comfortable So, unless you suffer from bad knees, you’ll be able to thrust away quite comfortably without trembling under the weight of your partner or getting cramp after 30 seconds.

7. It’s raw And there is something wild, naughty and unadulterated about not having face to face contact during sex – and while making love has its place, doggy style is the perfect tonic when you’re in the mood something a bit more caveman.

8. You can multi-task And your clitoris is in the perfect position to be stimulated by either yourself or your partner. As are your breasts.

9. Boobs While earning itself the reputation as being one of the less intimate of positions, doggy style is, actually, the perfect way to add a bit of boob fondling into the mix. Cupping your hands over your partners’ is also the perfect way to show him how you like them being touched – and you can’t get more intimate than that.

10. It doesn’t require a bed Or getting fully naked. Which means plenty more fun in the kitchen, bathroom, shower, on the staircase, leaning over the tumble dryer while on full spin cycle. And, back in the room.

11. It’s not a one trick pony And has an orgasm-enticing number of variations, including standing up for a quickie or spooning on your side if you’re after a bit more intimacy.

12. It’s the best position for a bit of light spanking And the perfect way to add a bit of extra ‘cheek’ into the bedroom.

7 Tips For Doggy Style, The Best Sex Position For Hitting The G-Spot

It was named the U.K.’s favorite sex position, and the U.S. definitely loves doggy style, too. Some people find it too rough or impersonal (although for many, the animalistic side of the position is the whole draw). It has a little “you and me baby, we ain’t nothing but mammals” vibe. But while I completely get it if it’s a little too intense, the good news is that there are a whole bunch of hacks that make doggy style more fun for everyone. It can be made more or less intimate, more or less rough, more or less … well, deep, depending on what works for you. Hey, it’s the best sex position for hitting the G-spot, so you may as well keep doing it.

So how do you mix up a sex style you may know pretty well? Well, since one partner has more control, it may be worth chatting about it beforehand if you want to try something really different from your usual moves. I’m just saying that it’s not an ideal position for communication, but if you’re good at saying what you want in the moment, then totally go for it.

Here are seven tips to customize your doggy style. There’s a variation out there for everyone.

1. If You’re Receiving, Get Involved

It doesn’t have to be just a whole lot of thrusting and pounding. As Katerina Messenger says, get involved: “Bounce, pop, swing, and roll your hips.” You can even tell your partner to hold completely still for a little bit while you take over.

2. Use A Mirror

If you don’t like the fact that you can’t see each other, which is a huge drawback for some people, then change it. Strategically-placed mirrors or a wild tryst in the bathroom means that you can have all the fun of doggy, but also be able to make eye contact. And it’s extra hot when you can see how much your partner is enjoying it.

3. Adjust For A More Intimate Experience

You can try modified doggy, which not only will help a partner last longer, but will also add some intimacy if you think it’s lacking. If during doggy, you go down onto your elbows and then basically lie down (use a pillow under your hips; it helps), then you get a lot of the benefits, but it’s a little less intense and a little more close.

4. Or For A More Wild One …

OK, so if you what you like about doggy is that it’s a little intense and wild, then up your game. Cosmopolitan suggests that you go down on your elbows, have your partner lift you by the thighs, and go for the wheelbarrow position. For the brave, for the bold.

5. Play With Yourself

I know that you’re bracing yourself, but you can spare a free hand. It’s a great position for clitoral stimulation, either with your hand or with a vibrator.

6. Get Comfortable

If you’re there for a while, then things can get a little creaky. Try putting a pillow under your knees, or even bracing yourself over the side of a couch, depending on where you’re doing it. It’ll let you focus on the fun, rather than on the logistics.

7. Up Your Dirty Talk Game

Whether you’re going for modified or regular doggy, it’s a great position for dirty talk, especially when the giving partner can get really close to the receiving partner’s ear. If there’s something you like to hear during sex, let them know beforehand, and then enjoy those sexy whispers.

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Most advice about sex positions has you doing some sort of acrobatics- you know, balancing on one leg or your head or having your sweetie lift you up. And let’s be real- for a lot of people this isn’t fun or even possible (though if you love it, get on with your bad self). Read on for doggy style tips to make your sex hotter.

There’s an easier way to increase your pleasure in the bedroom.

Simply make small tweaks to classic sex positions like like missionary, woman on top, and doggie style.

Doggy style is both a highly controversial (as in you either love it or hate it) sex position and the one I recommend most. Why? There’s so many ways to change it up so that it feels amazing for you and your partner.

Doggy style is the easiest sex position to change up.

Doggy style—or doggy position—generally means you’re on all four and your partner enters you from behind. I prefer to classify any rear entry position as doggy style. This means you can be standing, kneeling, laying on your stomach, or anywhere in between. You can use pillows to prop yourself up (I recommend this one since its extra supportive and has a machine washable cover), lay on a table or desk, press against a wall…the list goes on and on.

The point is, there’s a way to customize doggy style sex to feel effin’ fabulous for you and your lover.

Doggy style makes it easy to have sex anytime, anywhere.

Seriously: find a wall, face it, pull down your pants or hike up your skirt, and go to work. From bathroom quickies to a very welcoming welcome home, doggy style lets you do it in tight spaces with minimal fuss. #freedominpleasure at it’s finest.

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Doggy position makes it easy to stimulate a whole bunch of other feel good areas.

Basically your whole body is easily accessible. Can you say orgasm, guaranteed? Use hands, toys, and mouths to massage, rub, tease, or spank your breasts, clit, booty, and back. Not sure which parts of your body you love being touched the most? Try this out.

Doggy style also is a great position for stimulating your g-spot.

As I discuss in this post, your G-spot is an area on the frontal (belly-button side) vaginal wall that, for many people, feels good when stimulated. In doggy style, your partner’s penis is more likely to rub against that area (because…geometry). While many things come into play here–the size of your partner’s penis, how much pressure you need on your G-spot, and whether G-spot stimulation even feels good to you (because it doesn’t for everyone)–I’ve found doggy style, more than other positions, is good for G-spot exploration.

Doggy position is super intimate.

There’s something about sticking your bum up and out and giving away some control that either gets you going or makes you run away screaming. Sex is an intimate act to begin with and doin’ it doggy style amplifies that further. There’s a loss of control. You’re fully on display. There isn’t necessarily eye contact. And there’s something gritty, raw, and animalistic about it all. That’s kind of what makes it so hot…but also so intimidating.

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Now that you know all the ways doggy style is awesome, the question becomes how to make it work well for you and your sex life. The goal is to maximize the pleasure you experience while doing it.

How To Do Doggy: 4 doggy style tips to make this sex position hotter

Whether you’ve done it doggy style a million times or are looking to try it for the first time, give these doggy style tips a shot.

  1. Stimulate your clitoris. I swear to all higher beings, this one tip will change your life. Seriously, if you ignore everything else I’ve written, don’t ignore this. Even if you love G-spot stimulation, the clitoris is your pleasure center (don’t believe me? watch this). 8000+ nerve ending with no other purpose than feeling good. So grab your favorite vibe or use your fingers and go to town.
  2. Use shorter thrusts. You’ve told me over and over again that doggy style kind of hurts. That’s because it allows for deeper penetration than other sex positions. Your partner may actually be hitting your cervix and if you aren’t fully turned on, this usually doesn’t feel good. For most women “fully aroused” means 20-30 minutes of foreplay. And its more than being wet (which you might not be anyway): you’re wanting to. If you’ve extended your foreplay time, added lube, and still find doggy style uncomfortable ask your partner to use shorter thrusts. Not only will this prevent them from hitting your cervix but it also focuses the thrusting on your G-spot.

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  3. Shake that ass (Move it like a gypsy). Feel free to ignore the specific instructions in that song but don’t ignore the underlying message: moving your hips will take doggy style to a whole new level. Play around with what feels good: moving side-to-side, in small circles, up and down (yes I just told you to twerk…don’t be hatin’), or back to meet your honey’s thrusts. You’ll know you’ve found what works for you when you’re oh-so-surprised by new feel-good spots. Also- combining this with clitoral stimulation may just turn you into a pile of jelly. You’re welcome.
  4. Play with the booty. So while your butt is up and out, it might as well get some attention, right? Spanking is certainly possible. Groping and massaging ar great too. You might also enjoy some external anal stimulation (I recommend the Limon for this…just don’t forget to wash it thoroughly before using it on your clit again) or even penetration with fingers, anal beads, butt plugs, or any of many size dildos.

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Doggy style isn’t for everyone.

“But Kait, you just spent x number of words convincing us that doggy style is THE way to go…”

Let me be clear: doggy style ain’t for everyone. NOTHING in sex is. So if you read through these doggy style tips and think, “Naw, still not for me,” that’s totally ok. Your sex life has to work for you and your partner(s) and no one else. Fuck the shoulds.

The right way to do doggy position

There are as many different ways to do doggy style as there are people to do it. Ok that may be an exaggeration but my point is- you’ve got to do it in a way that feels amazing for you. Finding the way that works for you, your body, and your partner lets you have the hottest, most fulfilling, and most pleasurable doggy style sex.

Time to Re-Think Everything You Know About Doggystyle

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Deep penetration, a great view of your partner’s ass, and that feeling of being in total control are just some of the reasons men love hitting it doggystyle. Yes, it’s all power and pleasure for one party, but there is a reason the person knelt over with an arched back wants to switch things up after a few strokes: it ain’t the most comfortable position. If you want to make sure your partner can take the D any way you serve it up from the back, read on.

1On The Edge

Use the edge of the bed to position your partner’s bottom to hang slightly over the bed while you stand behind. Place your feet shoulder’s width apart to get a good footing. Make sure your knees are bent, and enter your partner with ease. Using the edge of the bed allows you to totally control your footing (you’re no longer on your knees) and prevents your partner from losing balance.

2Massage & Stroke

Maintaining an arched back can be a challenge for the person in the receiving position. To ease the discomfort, use your thumbs to massage your partner’s lower back by holding on to their hips and sliding your hands downward. You can even use the tips of your fingers to massage along either side of the spine to deepen the arch and rub out some back knots simultaneously. Coordinate your massage strokes with your penetrative strokes.

3Delay the Beat Up

Doggy style provides deep penetration that can sometimes feel uncomfortable for the receiving partner when you go too deep too fast. There are always exceptions, but the best practice is to use shallow, slow strokes to allow time for your partner’s body to accommodate the position. You can go deeper and increase your speed after natural lubrication and arousal occur. Continue to pay attention to how her body is responding and adjust your stroke as you feed off her energy. Ask if she wants you to go deeper before moving forward to help her prepare for the new sensations that will come along with deeper penetration.

4Use Props

Using pillows as assistants in doggystyle improve comfort for your partner and create an angle for penetration that can provide access to different pleasure zones within the vagina. Stack two or more pillows underneath your partner’s hips and have her bring her chest to the surface of the bed. Using the pillows can also help alleviate pressure on your partner’s knees and lower back pain. The firmer the pillows are, the better support they will provide for your partner.

5Strap Up

A fun way to support your partner’s weight is by using a doggystyle strap. This device is an easy-to-use adjustable harness that is placed on the lower abdomen of your partner while you hold its loops. The support of the harness can assist with targeting the g-spot and can be used in standing doggystyle positions as well as kneeling. Purchasing one is easy, and at under $10 this sex accessory will pay for itself after just one sex session.

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Your best sex may be behind you. We don’t mean behind you figuratively; we mean it literally…as in doggie-style. The rear-entry position (you on all fours with your guy at your backside) just officially dethroned missionary as millennials’ favorite way to get it on, according to the 2018 SKYN Condoms Millennial Sex Survey, which polled nearly 4,000 young men and women in America.

What’s truly awesome about this shift is that, for the first time in this annual survey, equal numbers of women and men say doggie is their jam. “Sex from behind usually feels great for every-one involved,” says certified sex therapist Rena McDaniel. “It allows for a greater depth of penetration, and the angle allows more leverage for thrusting.” Such deep inter-course means you can experience feel-good stimulation from his penis all along your vagina, including your G-spot and potentially even up to your cervix (which, because of the nerves clustered there, can be a major pleasure point for some women).

And variations of P-in-V doggie fun can be mostly hands-free, giving you both an invite to travel elsewhere with your digits, says clinical sexologist Claudia Six, PhD, author of Erotic Integrity. Mid-hookup, either of you can rub or caress your clitoris (which can help you orgasm more easily during vaginal penetration), breasts, or butt (although he has better access to your cheeks, obvi) or his balls.

If you’re down, try these pro multitasking tips: While your dude is busy thrusting, press a small bullet vibrator against your clitoris, or guide his hands toward your girls to give your nipples a gentle squeeze. Another option: A soft booty slap (with your permission) can feel like a thrilling and badass treat for you.

Oh, and one more reason doggie has become man and woman’s new best friend: its versatility. To experience the position every which way possible, try these oh-so-satisfying switch-ups that will make you want to roll over and beg for more. (Sorry, had to!)

Sitting

While your man is sitting in a chair (this works best if the chair has arms), stand facing away from him, then grab the arms of the chair to hover your backside over his lap and slowly lower your-self down onto his milk bone. Circle your hips around and around, starting slow at first and then speeding up. This extra-fresh, 360-degree stimulation can get you both off in no time.

Make it Hotter: Guide his hands up to your breasts to massage ’em while you ride. The extra touching will make you feel closer, even though you’re not face-to-face. And for a very erotic twist, rise up slightly so that just the tip of his wiener dog is entering you. This super-shallow penetration can give your G-spot all the feels, and your guy will love that his mega-sensitive head is getting all the attention.

Lying Down

Lie facedown on the bed and spread your legs slightly. Have your guy get into a push-up position over you, then enter you and pump his hips forward and backward. The super-intense penetration—and feeling of complete fullness if you cross your ankles for a tighter squeeze—will make you both feel like you just won Westminster.

Make it Hotter: For easier access to your lady parts (and more comfort), prop a pillow underneath your hips to raise your backside closer to your man’s body. If you’re craving more intimacy, turn your face to the side and invite him to give you kisses all along your neck, ear, and face.

Standing

For a full-body rush that’ll make all those yoga classes feel worth it, lean over even farther into downward dog.

Stand with your partner behind you and lean your torso against a dresser, bend at the waist and grab hold of a kitchen counter, or steady yourself in front of a full-length mirror. As he enters you from behind, bend your knees to adjust the angle until you find a sweet spot that feels amaze. Have your guy hold on to your hips for added stability.

Make it Hotter: For a full-body rush that’ll make all those yoga classes feel worth it, lean over even farther into—you guessed it—downward dog. Put your hands on the floor in front of you, head hanging down, and bend your knees slightly. Stay light on your feet, so you can move backward and forward to counter your guy’s enthusiastic lovin’.

This article originally appeared in the October 2018 issue of Cosmopolitan Magazine.

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Hi Emily

I consider myself to be a very open person sexually. I love trying out new things in the bedroom and playing around with different positions. My absolute favorite is doggy-style. The problem is, I always seem to experience a lot of pain when I do it. Is this normal? I should probably add that my last few partners have been pretty blessed in the size department. Is size a factor here, as well? And more importantly, how can I make it less painful so I can experience the pleasure?

Thanks, love your podcast!

Jessica

Dear Jessica,

First I just have to say that I love your attitude! Sex is supposed to be fun and playful, and the best way to get the most from it is to explore and treat it like an adventure. The one thing that sex is never supposed to be, however, is painful. Pain is not normal, and can often signal that something is very wrong. Any time you experience pain during sex, you need to hit the brakes.

As far as sex positions go, doggy-style can definitely be considered one of the hottest and can feel amazing when done right. It also allows for the deepest penetration because guys are able to thrust deeply (unlike in missionary or woman-on-top).

What you’re experiencing is likely the result of your well-endowed partners’ members hitting your cervix, which can be extremely painful. Unfortunately, it’s also a fairly common occurrence during doggy-style.

Before you give up on your favorite position for good, there are some variations you can try that will let you hit the same sweet spot without the pain!

The first option is standing doggy-style, which is exactly what it sounds like. With both of you standing (you with your back to him), your partner has less range of motion and has to be more controlled in his thrusts. So while he probably won’t be able to give it to you as hard, fast, and deep as traditional doggy style, you both get that same snug fit and friction that feels so great. It also frees up his hands for some other frisky maneuvers…

Another way to alter this position is by taking it all the way horizontal. Try lying down on your stomach on a bed or some other comfy surface with pillows underneath your pelvis and your legs closed together and have your partner enter you from behind. Your closed legs and elevated rear end will help you control the depth of penetration while also providing a nice, tight entry for him and a tighter feel for you. Everyone wins!

In addition to these modified versions of doggy-style, it certainly wouldn’t hurt to experiment with some other sex positions. Opt for moves that give you a little more control of the speed and depth of penetration and incorporate shallow thrusting or grinding; that way, you’re still getting to enjoy the benefits of your partner’s sizable penis, just from a different angle. And since the G-spot is located only a few inches inside the vagina, on the upper wall, your man doesn’t need to rely on power thrusts (or size) to hit it just right.

The tried-and-true “woman-on-top” position (also called “cowgirl” or occasionally “queening”) is a great choice if you’d like to have a little bit more control during sex. With you on top, you’ll be able to go at your own pace and use his tool to your advantage, while he just holds on and enjoys the ride. And enjoy he will!

In contrast with doggy style, the spooning position can be a really nice change of pace, in addition to providing a much-needed break for your lady parts. You can even mix it up a little with the inverted spoon position—both you and your partner lay on your sides facing each other with your legs scissored between one another.

9 Women Describe What Doggy Feels Like

There are so many different opinions about how doggy style feels. It’s the favorite sex position in the UK— and is constantly voted as one of the favorites in the U.S.. I love it, and it’s some of my friends’ favorite, but I know other women who avoid it completely. So why the split? Why the love-hate relationship?

I really think it’s possible for most people to find some version of doggy they’d enjoy, because there are so many ways to mix it up with this position. It can be more or less intimate, more or less intense, more or less… well, just animalistic. But if it’s not for you, then it’s not for you, obviously. But it’s unusual for a sex position to bring out such strong feelings— both positive and negative— you don’t hear people railing against spooning or girl on top. So how can something as silly as a sex position been so evocative?

It comes down to the individual person, and looking at some individual explanations, they are really varied. Between preferences, health issues, attitudes— it’s a massive mixed bag when it comes to doggy style. So here are real women saying what doggy style feels like for them:

1. Katherine, 30

“Horrendous.”

2. Sarah, 28

“It’s my favorite. I love it. But never first. I need some more romantic moves before we jump right into doggy, take your time guys! But then I like something like doggy, it makes me feel like I’m in a porno or something.”

3. Lizzie, 26

“I like it when I’m feeling wild, but don’t like guys finishing that way. It’s just not personal enough. And it’s kinda weird not being able to see what’s going. Like are you done?”

4. Katherine, 32

“I have a tilted uterus, and I think for that reason it feels weird to me. Not painful, but often uncomfortable.”

5. Zoe, 28

“I’m a big fan. 6. Harri, 24 “It’s as deep as it gets. I can play with myself or sometimes if he’s really thrusting hard my boyfriend’s balls hit my clit and it feels unreal. We don’t do it every time we have sex, but pretty much.” 7. Hannah, 24 “Only if I’m in control. When I’ve been with partners who are really big it’s just been too much to let them go at it. But when they hold still and I control it it’s really sexy.” 8. Melissa, 33 “With current partner it feels great— I don’t know if he’s hitting my G-spot or just an angle that I really like, and it’s a good way to make him finish as he’s less sensitive down there. My last boyfriend was crazy tall and the height difference made it pretty impossible, we tried to use pillows under my knees but it always felt uncomfortable and was just not worth the trouble of adjusting all the time.” 9. Emily, 28 “I don’t like starting off in doggy because you can’t see your partner, but once you ease into it, I think it’s the sexiest position out there.”

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3. And doggy-style also won’t help if you’re trying for a boy. The old wives’ tale that sex with the guy on top leads to male babies is also untrue. Roseff confirms that newer technology has made it apparent that X and Y sperm move at the same speed and that “various sexual positions have absolutely no effect on the resulting gender of a baby.” So if you were hoping for a boy, keep crossing your fingers. It’s just as effective.

4. Americans are searching for “doggy style” like whoa. According to a study from AskMen, America Googled doggy-style more than any other sex position. It could be because it’s incredibly popular, or maybe just because some people find it logistically challenging and need help. Not our place to judge.

5. It’s the second most dangerous position. Woman-on-top edges it out, but doggy-style is responsible for over a quarter of penile fractures. According to a study done at the University of Campinas in Brazil, 28 percent of men admitted to the ER with a penile fracture got it from doggy-style (for what it’s worth, woman-on-top took credit for 50 percent). But don’t worry, the odds of “breaking” a penis during sex are still incredibly low, so don’t let this scare you off.

6. It’s part of a bigger family of “rear entry” sex positions. Doggy-style isn’t the only way to have sex from behind; doggy-style is part of the “rear entry” group of sex positions that range from downward dog (yes, like the yoga position) and froggy to reverse cowgirl. So if you find the “standard” doggy-style too uncomfortable, you’ve got plenty of options: use a pillow under your stomach or even brace yourself against a chair.

7. It’s really, really old. You think Snoop Dogg was the first person to reference the sex position in 1992? No way. Ancient Greeks and Romans have artwork and literature referencing the sex position; Roman philosopher Lucretius even recommended it for couples trying to conceive (please note that this has no actual scientific basis).

8. Lots of songs reference the sex position. Lots. According to Genius, there are over 1,600 songs that address the topic, at least in passing. “P.I.M.P.” by 50 cent, “The Bad Touch” by The Bloodhound Gang, and “Back That Thing Up” by Justin Moore (which is a country song about doggy-style sex in a barn, and it’s just as good as it sounds).

9. If you’re a woman and doggy-style sex is painful, you have options. Because this position allows for super-deep penetration, some women may find their partners are hitting up against their cervix. Try slowing down the rate of penetration, and play with the angle of your hips. Try going down on your forearms or up on your palms to see if the depth makes a difference in your comfort level.

10. It’s called “doggy-style” but plenty of other animals mate that way … including horses, camels, giraffes, and elephants.

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11. … and tons of animals don’t. Whales, dolphins, and spiders forsake the position. And primates like chimpanzees don’t use it exclusively.

12. It’s not just for vaginal sex. Feel free to engage in anal sex and cunnilingus while you’re back there. “Doggy-style” can refer to any of those things, not just sex from behind.

13. It’s a favorite for a lot of guys. According to a Women’s Health poll, men list it as their favorite sex position, trumping old standbys like missionary.

This post was originally published in 2015 and has been updated.

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Frank Kobola Frank is a contributing writer for Cosmopolitan.com

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