- Peeing During Sex: Causes, Treatment, and More
- Why Do I Feel Like I Need to Pee During Sex?
- Make sure you pee before AND after sex
- Vaginal dryness and needing to pee
- Is peeing linked to the G-spot orgasm?
- When to see a GP about frequent urination
- Why might urination happen during intercourse?
- Understand the Problem
- Treating Urinary Incontinence
- Managing Incontinence During Sex
- It’s Not Pee…
- …But You Might Pee at the Same Time
- It Happens When You Stimulate Your G-Spot
- You Might Be Accidentally Sabotaging Your Ability to Squirt
- Anyone Can Make You Squirt—Including You
- There’s a reason why you may feel like peeing during sex
- Why Does It Feel Like I Have To Pee During Sex? 3 Common Feelings & How To Deal
- It Feels Painful
- It Feels Weird
- It Feels OK, But You’re A Little Freaked Out
Peeing During Sex: Causes, Treatment, and More
If you think you may be urinating during sex, talk to your doctor. They can help determine whether you’re urinating or experiencing the results of orgasm. If you’re urinating during sex, your doctor can recommend treatment options to help you control your incontinence.
Strengthen your pelvic floor muscles
If you’re a woman, your doctor may recommend seeing a physical therapist who specializes in the muscles of the female pelvis. Weighted vaginal cones or biofeedback techniques can help to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, in addition to Kegel exercises.
Kegel exercises can add strength to your pelvic floor muscles, the muscles that support the organs in your pelvis, and the sphincter muscles that open and close when you urinate or have a bowel movement. Kegel exercises can have a number of benefits, including:
- improved bladder control
- improved fecal incontinence, which is involuntary bowel movements
- increased blood flow to sex organs and enhance sexual pleasure
In men, Kegels may help with not only urinary incontinence, but also erectile dysfunction. One small study showed that 40 percent of men who had erectile dysfunction for more than six months had their symptoms completely resolve with a combination of pelvic floor physical therapy and at-home Kegel exercises.
The exercises can be done standing, sitting, or lying down, and they can be done just about any time or place. It’s a good idea to empty your bladder before doing them.
First locate the muscles. This is done while peeing and stopping midstream. The muscles you used to pause urination are what you’ll be working on.
Once you’ve identified those muscles, tighten them when you’re not peeing, holding them for five seconds, then completely relax them. Don’t clench your abdominal, leg, or buttock muscles. The relaxing part is important, too. Muscles function by contracting and relaxing.
Work up to a goal of 20 at a time, three to four times a day, and tightening your pelvic floor muscles for five seconds at a time.
Bladder training helps you gain better control of your bladder. This enables you to go for increasingly longer periods of time between urinating. It could be done in conjunction with Kegel exercises.
Bladder training consists of using the restroom on a fixed schedule, whether or not you feel the urge to go. Relaxation techniques help suppress the urge if you feel the need to urinate before the scheduled time. Gradually, the periods of time between bathroom breaks can be increased by 15 minute intervals, with an ultimate goal of going three to four hours between urinating. It may take 6 to 12 weeks before you get to your goal.
For some people, lifestyle changes can help prevent urination during sex:
- Try different positions during sex. That may help you find one that doesn’t place pressure on your bladder.
- Empty your bladder before sex.
- If you’re overweight, weight loss can help. Your doctor can help you come up with a diet and fitness plan.
- Limit intake of beverages and food containing caffeine or alcohol. Caffeine and alcohol act as diuretics, as well as being bladder irritants, so they can increase your urge to urinate.
- Avoid drinking too much right before sexual activity. That will reduce the amount of urine in your bladder.
Medications and other treatments
Medications are usually given only if pelvic floor exercise and lifestyle changes aren’t effective in relieving symptoms. Medications that are often prescribed to treat incontinence include:
- medications that reduce bladder spasms, such as darifenacin (Enablex), solifenacin (VESIcare), and oxybutynin chloride (Ditropan)
- antispasmodic, anti-tremor medications such as hyoscyamine (Cystospaz, Levsin, Anaspaz)
- Botox injections into your bladder muscle
- electrical stimulation
- surgery to increase the size of your bladder
Learn more: Botox for overactive bladder “
Why Do I Feel Like I Need to Pee During Sex?
There are a lot of things that can kill the ripping-each-other’s-clothes-off mood when you’re mid hookup: an accidental knee-to-crotch situation (did you know you can break a penis?), an erectile dysfunction commercial coming on the TV, a Hannah Montana song that somehow snuck into your “Gettin’ Busy” playlist-and when you have to say, “I’ll be right back” and run off to the bathroom to pee.
But sometimes, it’s not that you actually need to go to the bathroom, it’s just that it feels like it. What’s the deal? Shape sexpert Dr. Logan Levkoff says it’s all about anatomy. Basically, the vaginal cavity sits behind the bladder, and during penetration, the penis can push right on your bladder (especially during rear-entry positions like doggy style). Not so mysterious, right?
And the solution is even easier: just make sure you go to the bathroom before anything gets too heated (so you don’t have to worry about killing the mood later, when things are already steamy). That way, you can rest assured knowing that you don’t actually have to go.
BUT (!) there’s another reason why you might get the feeling even when your bladder is empty, says Dr. Levkoff, and that’s G-spot stimulation. (If you’re still confused about whether the g-spot exists, you need to watch this video, stat.) When the g-spot is stimulated, fluid pools around it in the nearby spongy urethral tissue, and could cause you to ejaculate. (Which is a thing, you guys.)
The takeaway? Go to the bathroom before sex, embrace it if your g-spot gives you the magical gift of female ejaculation, and go pee after sex too (here’s why that’s super important, straight from Dr. Levkoff).
- By Lauren Mazzo @lauren_mazzo
The sudden need to pee while you’re in the middle of having sex can be an awkward prospect. One second you’re enjoying intercourse with your partner and the next you have to run to the bathroom. So, is it perfectly normal to need to pee at the worst possible time, or should you see a doctor?
The urge to urinate during sex is actually a lot more common than you might think. ‘It can be completely normal to feel the urge to pee during sexual intercourse. In fact around 60 per cent of women feel the urge to pee during sex,’ says Dr Sherry A. Ross, MD OB/GYN, a women’s health expert and author of she-ology. The Definitive Guide to Women’s Intimate Health. Period
Here is everything you need to know about bladder control during sexy time, including what you can do to fix it:
Make sure you pee before AND after sex
You’ve probably heard the (somewhat) common advice to always pee after sex in order to prevent a urinary tract infection (UTI). While this information is absolutely correct, you should also be sure to pee before sex as well if you want to minimise mid-coitus pee breaks.
The urethra and bladder are adjacent to the vaginal canal. When the bladder is full, sex can make urgency more apparent – and even cause it.
‘Since the bladder sits directly on top of the vagina, the act of a penis or dildo going in and out of the vagina creates the sensation of the urge to pee,’ says Ross. As you move during intercourse, the bladder gets, well, bumped around a bit. Your sexual organs are all quite close to one another.
The urethra and bladder are adjacent to the vaginal canal. When the bladder is full, sex can make urgency more apparent
‘It’s not uncommon that people feel like you need to pee because of the pressure being applied to the bladder through vaginal insertion of a toy/penis or the position they’re in during sex,’ explains Kristine D’Angelo, a certified sex coach and clinical sexologist.
Make a pit stop to the bathroom before sex to ensure this doesn’t happen to you. If anything, it will give you peace of mind to know you’re not squishing an overly full bladder before getting busy.
Vaginal dryness and needing to pee
If you always feel the need to pee during sex, the easiest solution could be investing in some reliable lube. Vaginal dryness can lead to irritation of the urethral canal, resulting in a sense of urgency during sex.
‘Prevent vaginal dryness or irritation by using proper lubrication. This could help eliminate vaginal tissue from becoming inflamed, affecting the urethral tube which could make you feel like you have to pee,’ D’Angelo says.
There are tons of lubes to choose from. We recommend opting for a reliable water-based product that is free of parabens and glycerine. Our favourite is Yes WB. You can also use a high-quality silicone-based lube like Pjur lube. The mucus-rich tissue of the vagina and vulva are some of the most highly absorbent in the human body. Don’t use low-grade ingredients.
💡When it comes to sexual play of any kind, invest in some lube. The more lube the better. Even if you think you get wet enough, lube makes everything better. You’ll have better sex and more orgasms.
The G-spot is located within the first few inches inside of the vaginal canal. To locate it, insert one or two fingers into the vagina and hook up toward the belly button. It should feel like a walnut textured patch. This spot is less of a “spot” and more of a G-spot “area.” It is the backend of the clitoris. This area lives in close proximity to the urethral sponge and Skene’s Glands – the glands responsible for female ejaculation.
When the G-spot is activated, it can simultaneously stimulate the urethral sponge and urethra, causing the sensation to urinate. Additionally, when the Skene’s Glands fill with fluid, it can add further pressure to the urethra. So chances are you don’t really need to pee, it just feels that way.
When the G-spot, which is connected to the clitoral network, is massaged it begins to swell with prostatic fluids.
‘When the G-spot, which is connected to the clitoral network, is massaged or experiences friction it begins to swell with prostatic fluids, when ejaculated through the urethra it can be confused with peeing but actually it’s got a small amount of urea present,’ D’Angelo explains. Needing to pee is often the preface for squirting.
When to see a GP about frequent urination
Needing to pee during sex is usually normal, but there are times when you should consult your doctor or gynaecologist. For instance, if the urgency is accompanied by pain, this could indicate an infection of the bladder or a UTI. You should always talk to your doctor if you’re experiencing pain during intercourse.
Another reason a constant need to urinate might be happening? Weak pelvic floor muscles. ‘If you have any problems with pelvic floor weakness from a vaginal birth, chronic coughing, sneezing, constipation or regular high-impact exercises this can also lead to an urge to pee during sex,’ Ross explains.
The best way to strengthen the pelvic floor is by doing Kegel exercises. To get started read our guide to pelvic floor exercises! Get the go-ahead from your doctor before trying anything new if you have any concerns about your health.
💟 Gigi Engle is a certified sex coach, sexologist, educator, and writer living in Chicago. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter at @GigiEngle.
Last updated: 18-11-19
Gigi Engle Sex coach and sexologist Gigi Engle is a certified sex coach, sexologist, sex educator and writer.Gigi promotes and teaches pleasure-based sex education, masturbation, and safer sex practices. She also serves as a Pleasure Professional with O.School, where she teaches a number of classes centered around pleasure, sexual health, and confidence.
Why might urination happen during intercourse?
Share on PinterestWomen may urinate during sex due to pressure being placed on the bladder.
The main reason for women urinating during sex is because of incontinence. This is when someone urinates unintentionally and uncontrollably.
The National Association for Continence estimate that around 25 million people in the United States are affected by bladder or bowel incontinence in some way.
Women are up to five times more likely to be affected by urinary incontinence than men.
Urinary incontinence (UI) is a common condition among women. As female reproductive and urinary systems share parts of the body, this condition can interfere with sexual intercourse.
One study reported that around 60 percent of women with UI experience some sort of urinary leakage during sex.
Doctors split UI into three different types:
- stress urinary incontinence
- urgency urinary incontinence
- mixed urinary incontinence
Stress urinary incontinence
This is the most common type of UI that occurs during sex, with around 51 percent of cases being caused by stress urinary incontinence.
It occurs when an activity, such as sex, puts stress on the bladder. Other common triggers include:
- lifting something heavy
Urgency urinary incontinence
Urgency urinary incontinence refers to the sudden and uncontrollable need to urinate, which is a symptom of an overactive bladder.
In a properly functioning bladder, the need to urinate usually arises when it is around half full. People are able to wait until an appropriate time to use the toilet.
In urgency urinary incontinence, the bladder contracts too early, making a person suddenly need the toilet and sometimes leaking urine before they get there. The exact cause is unknown, but it appears to be more common in older people.
Mixed urinary incontinence
Mixed urinary incontinence is when incontinence can either be caused by stress or urgency. This form of UI is more common than just urgency urinary incontinence on its own.
The opening of the bladder in a man’s penis closes during sex so that urine does not mix with semen. As a result, urination during sex does not often occur among men.
However, some men can experience incontinence during sex as a side effect of treatment for prostate cancer.
The American Cancer Society estimate that around 1 in 9 men will be diagnosed with prostate cancer during their lifetime. A common form of treatment for prostate cancer is radical prostatectomy, which is the complete removal of the prostate.
While often effective in treating cancer, one side effect can be incontinence when sneezing, coughing, exercising, or during sex.
Sometimes I feel like I have to urinate during sex. I get so freaked out I’ll wet the bed that I lose my arousal. What should I do?
Several sexual positions stir up internal sensations that scare many women into thinking they might spray the sheets. This feeling can be caused by your partner’s penis putting pressure on your bladder. But it can also be a reaction to the internal stimulation from penetration. To find out what’s causing the need-to-pee feeling, go to the bathroom before you get frisky. While this might slow down the momentum of your lovemaking, it’s better than letting worry completely kill the mood.
If you’ve emptied your bladder and still feel like you have to go when you get back to business, it might just be the way a certain position affects you. You may notice it most when having sex from behind, if you’re on top or when you’re lying under him with your pelvis slightly lifted. If that’s the case, try to relax. For some women, orgasms cause spontaneous emission of a somewhat clear fluid (that’s not urine) from the urethra, before, during, or after coming that can range from a few drops to amini-flood. You’ve probably heard of this as “squirting.” While female ejaculation is a hotly debated issue, many women claim to have experienced it.
The best way to understand how your body works — and to figure out how to max out your pleasure — is to do some solo investigating. Lying on your back with a towel underneath you, spread your legs and use either your finger or a small vibrator penetrate your vagina, targeting the top interior wall. If the peeing sensation starts after several strokes, you might be one of the lucky women who can orgasm from penetration alone.
While you may be tempted to stop, the trick to reaching the next level of titillation, and ultimately a colossal climax, is to keep going. For an even more spine-tingling thrill, rub your clitoris at the same time. The more in tune you are with the, the easier it will be to tell the difference between actually having to pee and being on your way to an awe-inspiring orgasm.
Like a chatty aunt, nature seems to call at all the wrong times. But if you feel like you have to pee every time you have sex? Something else may be going on there—including a few things worth checking out.
Michael Krychman, MD, is executive director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine. Anita Clayton, MD, is a professor of psychiatry and neurobehavioral sciences at the University of Virginia. Here, Krychman and Clayton explain four reasons behind your sex-induced need to pee, and when it might be a problem.
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1. A certain position triggers your urge to go.
If your partner has a big belly, certain sex positions could press his gut against your bladder. That could make you feel like you have to use the bathroom. Switching positions—say, from missionary to woman-on-top—may alleviate your urge to pee. (See more new sex position ideas here.)
2. You’re also dealing with dryness.
Vaginal dryness is a common symptom of perimenopause or menopause—when estrogen levels decrease. Estrogen helps maintain moisture and lubrication in the vagina as well as the urinary tract. And when the urinary tract membranes are dry, some women experience a sensation of having to pee even if they don’t have to go. Moisturizers, lubricants, or topical estrogen may help quell your gotta-go sensation.
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3. You’re feeling a bit of pain, too.
If you notice pain or burning when you eventually make it to the bathroom, that could be a sign of a urinary tract or vaginal infection (like a yeast infection). Ditto if you notice a funny smell when you pee, or spot a thin white or gray discharge in your urine. See a doctor. An antibiotic can clear things up.
4. It’s not just during sex.
If you feel the urge to urinate all the time—but don’t produce much pee—your uterus may have “prolapsed.” Whether due to age, past pregnancy, or other factors, the muscles that support your uterus can weaken, which allows your uterus to partially descend into your vagina. There, it puts pressure on your bladder. If it’s not bothering you much, it may not require treatment. But talk to your doc anyway. In some cases, she may prescribe the use of pessaries, or even surgery.
Markham Heid Markham Heid is an experienced health reporter and writer, has contributed to outlets like TIME, Men’s Health, and Everyday Health, and has received reporting awards from the Society of Professional Journalists and the Maryland, Delaware, and D.C.
Is it normal, or even possible, for a woman to pee during sex? Is something wrong with me if I do?
This happens to a lot of women (so, yes, it is possible). One medical survey found that 24 percent of women report incontinence during intercourse, but most are too embarrassed to mention it to their doctors. It can be caused by weak bladder muscles. You should practice kegels to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, but some immediate solutions are to make sure you go to the bathroom before sex and cut down on caffeine because that makes your bladder spasm.
Will having a copper IUD have any effects on my body other than period pain, etc.? I find it hard to believe a foreign object can sit inside me for five years and not do some damage.
The ParaGard (which is the copper IUD you’re referring to) can cause heavier periods and more cramping with your period for as long as it’s in. It doesn’t contain any hormones, and it is actually a 10-year IUD. The five-year one is Mirena, which contains the hormone progesterone, and actually makes your periods lighter. Other than that, there are no known lasting effects to IUDs.
One thing you should be extra careful with if you have an IUD, though, is STIs. If you get an STI while you have an IUD, the infection can ascend into your womb more easily and give you a more serious pelvic infection. Make sure to use protection, and if you’re having a lot of casual sex, an IUD may not be right for you right now.
Hello! I’m 18 and I’ve been sexually active for about three years now. Although I enjoy sex with my boyfriend, I feel an intense pain every time he gets really deep into me, like he’s hitting my womb. That usually happens in certain positions where penetration is deeper. Is there any chance my vagina is too short? I didn’t feel that much pain in the past and my boyfriend is really gentle, so it’s not his fault. I’m ashamed to ask my gyno!
It’s unlikely your vagina is too short. This is a common sign of endometriosis, because the penis can be pushing on some of the extra tissue that’s grown. You should rule out any infections with your gynecologist first — it also could be caused by an STI or even a yeast infection — but then you may want to have her check for endometriosis. Read more about endometriosis here.
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For women who have issues with incontinence, the fear of a urine leak during intimate moments is a valid one – up to 24% of women who have pelvic floor disorders experience leaks during sex (and there’s a very good likelihood that it’s underreported). Anxiety over the possibility of an “accident” can lower sexual enjoyment or even completely kill your libido. According to the American Foundation for Urologic Disease (AFUD), 1/3 of women with stress incontinence avoid sexual intimacy because they fear leakage. However, there is no reason to just live with the strain of incontinence in your daily life, and there are things you can start doing right now to stop incontinence from sabotaging your love life.
Understand the Problem
First it’s important to understand what’s causing you to pee during sex. Coital incontinence can be split into 2 different categories – urination with penetration and urination with orgasm – which are caused by two different types of incontinence in women.
Urination with penetration happens when something is inserted into your vagina and puts pressure on your bladder or urethra (the tube that urine flows out of). This is a form of stress incontinence – the pelvic floor muscles are not strong enough to keep that tube closed if there’s increased pressure on the bladder – like coughing, sneezing, or sex.
Urination with orgasm can occur because the muscles of the bladder spasm uncontrollably – this is called urge incontinence or over active bladder (OAB). But recent studies have found that weakness of the pelvic floor also contributes to leaks during orgasm.
Treating Urinary Incontinence
Talk to Your Healthcare Provider
Studies have found that only 3% of women take the initiative to talk to their doctors about problems with leaks during sex. Don’t let embarrassment stop you from having a great sex life! You doctor can only help you fully if they know exactly what your symptoms are and how often you’re experiencing these leaks. Your doctor might want to try different treatments depending on what type of incontinence you have.
Urination with orgasm sometimes responds well to certain OAB medication – but if you don’t tell your doctor about your issues then you might not get the most effective treatment plan. Your doctor may even refer you to a urogynecologist who specializes in dealing with urinary tract issues in women.
Kegel, Kegel, Kegel!
Kegel exercises, the contraction and release of your pelvic floor muscles, are the number one doctor recommended treatment for pelvic floor disorders and studies show that women who complete Kegel exercise routine on a regular basis have fewer leaks during intimacy. Be sure to get the right Kegel technique, you can also ask your gynecologist to help you practice or use a Kegel weight to help you isolate those muscles.
Work towards Your Ideal Weight
Being overweight increases the likelihood of leaks because that weight can strain your pelvic floor and put pressure on your bladder. Even a 7% weight loss can improve your incontinence. Discuss your weight loss plan – including diet and exercise – with your doctor.
Managing Incontinence During Sex
Talk to Your Partner
Incontinence can be an embarrassing topic, especially when it’s affecting your sex life. While more than half of women with incontinence report feeling concerned about leaks during sex being a problem in their relationships the majority of their partners did not. Communicating about the leaks with your partner is extremely important to maintaining a healthy sex life while you’re treating your incontinence. Being open about the issue can bring you closer together – your partner wants to know why you’ve been avoiding sex and they should also want to make intimacy comfortable for you. So telling them could also give you even more support and motivation towards your treatment goals.
Limit Fluid Intake Before Sex
Try not to drink anything, particularly if it can irritate the bladder, in the hour before you have sex. However you should stay hydrated throughout the rest of the day – since dehydration can also irritate the bladder and make leaks worse.
Go Before You Have Sex
Use the toilet just before you get started to lessen the likelihood of leaks. Try the “double voiding” method: urinate, then relax your bladder fully (some women also stand up for a few seconds), and try to urinate again to make sure you get as much out as you can.
Try New Positions
Certain positions, like missionary, put more pressure on your bladder, so take this as an opportunity to switch things up. As an added benefit, you both might discover a new favorite way to make love and add a little spice to the bedroom. Being on top gives you more control of your pelvic muscles and how much stress is placed on your bladder (not to mention a better chance of hitting your G-spot). Penetration from behind can put less stress on your bladder and urethra. Just experiment a bit to find something you both like.
Take a Bathroom Break
Don’t be embarrassed to take a break during sex – between foreplay and intercourse, between intercourse and cuddling. Sex doesn’t have to be a sprint, you should both take as much time as you want and enjoy the intimacy of just being together.
Try it in the Shower
Or, if you’re adventurous, try a little fun in the shower – a little leak won’t matter so much when the water’s already running and you’re both enjoying getting slippery together.
Incontinence during sex is a common problem for women of all ages – but it isn’t something you just have to live with. A little bit of planning, some Kegels, and help from your doctor can get you back in the sack and enjoying your sexuality again. Just don’t be embarrassed to get the help you need.
Please note that advice offered by Intimina may not be relevant to your individual case. For specific concerns regarding your health, always consult your physician or other licensed medical practitioners.
Lane Baumeister is an internationally-based Canadian writer with several years’ experience creating educational and entertaining articles that discuss intimate health and sexual well-being. When not waxing profound about menstruation, she devotes herself to enjoying extremely good food and equally bad movies.
Here’s a fact that might surprise you: All women have the physical ability to squirt—aka ejaculate, just like men—it’s just a matter of pushing the right “buttons” to make it happen. But what is squirting, exactly?
“Female ejaculation is normal,” says Marissa Nelson, LMFT, certified sex therapist. “Some women already ejaculate, some haven’t learned how, and some hold back to prevent themselves from doing it.”
That’s right—if you haven’t squirted before, it could be because you’ve never tried, or never tried to lose enough inhibitions to let it happen. If you or are your partner are curious about how to make the famous squirt happen (or are just open to exploring something new in the bedroom), here are a few more helpful facts to know.
It’s Not Pee…
Contrary to what you may have heard, the fluid that women release when they ejaculate is not urine. “Female ejaculate is a watery liquid, either clear or milky, that comes from the female prostate glands and is released through the urethra, the same hole you pee out of,” says Nelson. “But it doesn’t smell or look like urine at all.”
…But You Might Pee at the Same Time
While squirting itself is entirely different than urinating, it’s not unheard of for a woman who squirts to pee—or at least feel like she has to pee—at the same time. “The sensation to pee during G-spot stimulation is very normal, since the tissue around your urethra is flooded with blood and the tissue contracts and presses against your bladder,” says Nelson. “If you’d rather not urinate—or if you want to be able to tell the difference between peeing and squirting—take a quick pee break and then continue. If you still have the strong urge to pee in the first couple of minutes after you emptied your bladder, you can be sure that it’s ejaculate, not urine, that’s going to come out.”
It Happens When You Stimulate Your G-Spot
If you want to up your odds of squirting, there’s a specific area down there that you should focus on: Your G-spot. “Most women who ejaculate do so as a result of touching there,” says Nelson. “The G-spot swells when aroused, so it’s best to try to go to work on it when you’re already aroused from foreplay or clitoral stimulation.” Refresher course: Your G-spot is located two to three inches into the vagina, close to the front of the vaginal wall, and feels like a spongy, raised bump or ridge.
You Might Be Accidentally Sabotaging Your Ability to Squirt
Because some women associate the feeling before ejaculation with urinating, or because they might be worried about what’s going to come out, they may be hindering their capacity to squirt—even unconsciously. Pro tip: Pee before having sex, and after that, just focus on orgasm, no matter what kind of pressure you feel in your abdomen. “For most women who ejaculate, orgasm and ejaculation happen at the same time,” says Nelson. “Some women can ejaculate before or after orgasm, or even ejaculate without having an orgasm—and, of course, lots of women orgasm without ejaculating—so it really varies from woman to woman, and in the end, it’s all normal.” And if you’re worried about how much is going to come out of you, there’s no real way to predict it. It can be anything from a few drops to a cup or two of liquid, says Nelson, so if you’re really serious about making it happen, you might want to have a towel or tissues handy (or do it on laundry day).
Anyone Can Make You Squirt—Including You
You don’t need a partner to make your squirting fantasy come true. You just need to know how to touch the G-spot right, says Nelson. “Stimulate the G-spot using a come-hither finger motion with one or two fingers,” she says. “When you feel that telltale urge to pee, take whatever you’re using to touch yourself out so that the ejaculate can flow out when you squirt.” As for the most effective things to make that happen: “The G-spot can best be reached by direct stimulation from a penis or a partner’s finger, fingering yourself, or using a toy designed for G-spot access.”
A version of this article originally appeared in November 2016.
There’s a reason why you may feel like peeing during sex
This explains a LOT.
Being a woman, there are plenty of things to worry about.
If it’s not your mental health, it’s your physical health and if it’s not that there’s the small matter of your vaginal health to worry about too.
We’re constantly being urged to look for symptoms of ovarian cancer and yeast infections but there are plenty of strange sensations during and after sex that leaves us a little worried.
In regards to sex, there’s nothing worse than being in the heat of the moment with your partner and suddenly feeling like you’re going to burst because you need to pee. Now we know why that happens.
According to Refinery29, that sensation of needing to pee while having sex is totally normal and happens to lots of women.
Sex expert Dr. Logan Levkoff has clarified that it’s not down to how much you’ve drunk nor your peeing routine, but rather the design of your anatomy.
Dr Levkoff explained that penetrative sex can put extra pressure on the bladder as it’s so close to the vagina, with couples practising anal sex more inclined to make the woman feel like needing to wee.
Another theory why women may feel the need to pee during sex is because of the stimulation of the vaginal G-spot. Dr. Levkoff told “When the G-spot is stimulated, fluid pools around it.”
So the sensations you’re feeling down there could be you needing to pee… or just ejaculate. YAY! It’s nice to have so many options isn’t it?
It’s nice to have so many options isn’t it?
Either way, needing to pee during sex is a totally normal thing so if you need to go gals, just go!
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Why Does It Feel Like I Have To Pee During Sex? 3 Common Feelings & How To Deal
If you’ve ever had the urge to get up and pee during sex, you’re definitely not alone. This is a pretty common feeling to get when something’s pressing on the inside of your vagina, Good Vibrations staff sexologist Carol Queen tells Bustle. Sometimes, it really does just mean you have to pee. But other times, pushing through it can yield some pretty rewarding results.
That “I have to pee” feeling usually comes about because your bladder and vagina are so close together, says Queen. If your bladder is full, it’ll be more easily pressed, so one way to avoid the sensation is to pee before sex. It may get harder if you wait until you’ve started due to the engorgement that happens when you’re aroused.
If you really have to pee, the sensation will probably get painful, says Queen. But if you don’t, there’s a chance that you’re actually going to squirt. “Pee-urgency really is a notorious sensation felt by those who are about to ejaculate,” says Queen. “It’s likely associated with the excitation of the nerves that serve both the bladder and the so-called G-spot.” So, if you’re not experiencing too much physical discomfort, it may be worth pushing through.
Not sure what describes your situation? There are three different ways the peeing feeling might show up, says Queen. Here’s how to deal with each one.
It Feels Painful
If the discomfort gets so strong you have a hard time continuing, chances are you actually have to pee. Queen doesn’t recommend trying to work through this. Go to the bathroom (and wait for your vagina to go back to normal first if you need to), and see if it gets easier afterward.
It Feels Weird
G-spot stimulation can be really intense, which can include feelings of having to pee. If you want to work through this, make sure you’re turned on, or else it can become uncomfortable, says Queen. You or your partner can put a finger or toy in your vagina, press on the upper wall, and stroke. Use lots of lube to minimize discomfort.
It Feels OK, But You’re A Little Freaked Out
Often, the discomfort that stops people from continuing with sex when they start to feel like they have to pee is more emotional than physical, says Queen. Maybe you’re afraid you’re going to pee on your partner or you’re scared that it indicates a problem. But if you’re physically comfortable enough to keep at it, Queen says, “put a towel down and go for it.”
If your fear of peeing is tripping you up, try talking to your partner to put any worries at ease, and focus instead on all the pleasant sensations you’re feeling during sex.
“One of the greatest sources of sexual dysfunction is being too up in your head, worrying, thinking too much,” says Queen, “and sex therapists recommend that you get out of that loop.” So, relax and trust that as long as you’re not in pain, only good things can happen.
There are few things that kill the “Oh man, it’s happening, it’s really happening, I’m definitely going to orgasm” feeling like the sudden urge to pee. You might plow forward, hoping your body doesn’t get its signals crossed to the point where you actually let loose during climax. Or maybe you press pause, waddle to the bathroom, relieve yourself, then bound back in to bed feeling relaxed and ready to pick up where you left off. But why does this feeling happen in the first place?
Well, it’s the result of everything being packed so closely together down there—oftentimes a penis or sex toy coming into contact with the anterior wall of your vagina (aka the top of it) will accidentally stimulate your bladder.
But how likely is it that you’ll actually pee right at the moment of orgasm? I’ve heard rumors that there’s some physical mechanism that makes it impossible for women to really pee during orgasm, but as it turns out, that’s not quite true.
“I haven’t seen particular research on this,” Mary Jane Minkin, M.D., a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Yale Medical School, tells SELF, exposing yet another one of the scientific world’s failings. Come on, major research institutions: The people need to know! In any case, even without the research to back this up one way or the other, Minkin has reason to believe it’s possible to pee during orgasm.
“I certainly have had a number of patients complain they’re leaking a little bit of urine during their orgasmic response,” she says. Unlike men, whose bodies make it impossible to pee when they orgasm, women’s urethral sphincters don’t close off and prevent urination during the most heightened moment of sex. But, Minkin adds, “I always wonder if it could be that they’re having an ejaculatory response, not leaking urine with their bladder.”
What she’s referring to is the mysterious phenomenon of female ejaculation, aka squirting. Squirting is actually a controversial topic. Some people fully believe that it’s a thing, while others think the rush of fluid during arousal and/or orgasm is just pee. From what we know, ejaculatory fluid seems to come from either the Bartholin’s glands or the Skene’s glands, which are located right outside or inside the vagina—as opposed to issuing from the urethra, where pee comes out. But one small study indicates that the bladder empties when it happens, so what science there is on it is really sketchy.