- We Asked Guys What WEIRD Things Turn Them On — And, Man, They Are WEIRD
- 10 Things You’re Doing On Social Media To Turn Guys Off, According To A Guy
- The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved.
- 5 Things That Turn Men Off to Relationships
- 2. Being Too Needy
- 3. Settling for What You Don’t Want (and not really knowing what it is you do want)
- 4. Not Being Honest
- 5. Being Too Me-Centered
- So what’s the solution?
- 5 Things That Turn Men Off to Relationships:
- 1. Playing cold-to-get
- 2. Being overly critical and seldom ever rewarding him
- 3. Being helpless and staying that way
- 4. Lying and dishonesty
- 5. Close-minded attitudes, especially about the people and pursuits they care about
- 6. A lack of ambition
- 7. A condescending attitude
- 8. Nagging or being too motherly
- 9. Not caring about one’s appearance
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- 1. Trying to make him jealous
- 2. Cribbing all the time
- 3. Acting dumb
- 4. Playing super hard to get
- 5. Giving him ultimatums
- 6. Being late
- 7. Always being shy in bed
- 8. Hating his favourite sport
- 9. Wearing too much makeup
- 10. Telling your friends everything about your relationship
- 11. Being overly dependent
- 12. Giving mixed signals
- 13. Invading their privacy
- 14. Being unnecessarily high maintenance
- 15. Talking about other men
- 10 of the Biggest Turn-Offs for Your Partner
- 1. Lacking a sense of humor
- 2. Disrespect
- 3. Being secretive
- 4. Lying
- 5. Selfishness
- 6. Constant arguing
- 7. Laziness
- 8. Taking your partner for granted
- 9. Sloppiness
- 10. Poor hygiene
- 5 Everyday Things Women Do That Turn Men Off (And Have No Clue About)
- 1. You dumb yourself down.
- 2. You fake it.
- 3. You feed the drama in your life.
- 4. You are constantly nagging and complaining.
- 5. You act masculine instead of using your feminine energy.
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We Asked Guys What WEIRD Things Turn Them On — And, Man, They Are WEIRD
Yep. He just said that.
Do you ever wonder what men think?
I feel like I spend way, way, way too much energy every day just trying to figure out what the male of the species is thinking about. When you’re into a man and you’ve just started “talking” (that perilous and barf-inducing period right before you DTR (define the relationship) and establish yourself as a boyfriend and girlfriend in a relationship, is it even possible NOT to wonder what men think?
I’d argue no, no it is not possible.
When you’re just getting to know a man and you know that you’re interested in him and super attracted to him, he can seem like this perfect other-worldly creature, free of flaws and blessed with special magical sex abilities.
But the truth is hardly that. The truth is that men are people, and, just like the rest of us, they are far from perfect, even (especially) when it comes to sex stuff.
You might be terrified about sharing your secret perversions, kinks, and turn-ons with your new boyfriend, but the truth is he’s probably got his own weird turn-ons that he’s scared of admitting to you for fear you will send the village out after him with torches and pitchforks. Men, they’re just like us: there are strange things that turn men on.
To prove that point, I asked dozens of men (their identities kept anonymous for obvious reasons) what their weirdest turn-ons are, and you’ll be surprised by the strange things that turn men on.
Okay, hit me my dudes: What is the weirdest thing that turns you on?
- “Girls crying. I don’t know why, it’s not that I would ever TRY to make a girl cry, but when my girlfriend cries I feel a sense of power because she is being vulnerable with me and trusts me.”
- ” I like women eating sausage rolls with lots of ketchup on them. Lots and lots of ketchup.”
- “A nice crisp stick of celery.”
- “To activate my sex drive before I bone out my partner so good, I grab my own ass. The feeling of my own hands supporting my gorgeous cheeks turns me on. I throw my head back and howl at the sky, “You want a piece of me God, you bring it!” I then turn and face my partner who should now be wearing a Toronto Raptors mascot costume. At this point, I am ready to begin penetrating my partner.”
- “Lesbian incest erotica and porn. Not the reality, but the fantasy, is very hot.”
- “Flannel. One time she answered the door in her fuzzy robe and at the sight of her I was ready to go for it right there in the apartment hallway.”
“Laugh. I can melt for a girl just because her laugh is awesome.”
“Left-handed girls. Sexy sinister vixens.”
“Girls wearing strap-on dildos.”
“Mine isn’t a weird turn on for the fact that it turns me on, but more because of how damned effective it is at doing so. I fucking love having the back of my neck tickled and scratched, like a dog, right where my hairline begins. This both makes me wildly turned on (as well as scratching/back tickling) but also has the effect of making me temporarily paralyzed. Thoughts cease, words fail me, and I am just lost in the feeling of fingernails very gently scratching against my skin. My ex used to do it whenever she wanted me to shut up, and I didn’t realize it worked 100% of the time until she actually explained it to me.”
“Noses, like a larger nose. For some reason, I love girls with a distinct or larger nose. It’s kind of a huge turn on…”
“Women that are pregnant. I know it’s weird, but it just seems to be the apex of sexuality.”
“Spaghetti strap tank tops. Like the ones usually worn under other shirts; not anything fancy. Just a solid white or black fitted tank top on my lady.”
“Girls with big thighs and freckles over their breasts. Oh, and redheads…”
“When a girl notices my man bulge, it’s a turn on to know she noticed.”
“Girls with ears that stick out a little.”
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“Girls that drive shitty cars. Somehow they are always hot and I want to hear the story… then fuck them.”
“Girls wearing men’s business suits, braces, and smoking cigars. And heels.”
“Department stores. I have no idea why but sometimes being in a Target gives me a raging hard-on. Literally I have no idea why that is.”
- “Pretty feet, shaved pits, and bikini area.”
- “Pegging, sex with trans women, bisexual group sex.”
- “Licking inside my ear.”
- “The thought of being bitten really hard; the curve of a woman’s clavicle; being controlled.”
- “Clandestine consensual encounters with strangers.”
10 Things You’re Doing On Social Media To Turn Guys Off, According To A Guy
Potential partners are always going to check your pages and if a guy likes what he sees, he may fall for you even more; if he doesn’t, it could be a major turn-off. Here are 10 things you might be doing on social media that could be turning potential boyfriends away.
Posting risqué selfies.
A few selfies are fine, but be aware of how revealing they are. Unless you’re at the beach, selfies that show off a lot of skin can actually scare off potential boyfriends. Guys who are looking for a girlfriend may not take you seriously if all of your selfies are a little risqué and revealing. Whether you mean to or not, it sends the signal that you’re just having fun and not looking for a real relationship.
Ranting and raving.
Social media was created in large part as a platform for complaining, sure, but you don’t want to overdo it. For the record, most guys will like that you’re opinionated and passionate about subjects, so if you feel strongly about something, feel free to post something. Still, there’s a fine line between expressing your opinion and going on rants. Some guys will get turned off if they see your Facebook page and it’s nothing but long paragraphs raving about everything wrong with the world. You ladies would probably feel the same way if you saw that on a guy’s Facebook page. Remember, it goes both ways.
Whether it’s friend, foe, or lover, nobody likes when a person does some vaguebooking on social media. Posting vague and cryptic messages on social media is akin to playing games in a relationship. If a guy notices that you do this, he’ll assume you like playing games and are more than a little immature. If you can’t come out and say what you mean, most guys aren’t going to waste their time trying to figure out what you mean.
Sending nude Snapchat pics.
This seems like a good idea to woo a guy you just met, but not if you want the relationship to go beyond the bedroom. When things get a little more serious, sending nude Snapchat pics can be super sexy. However, you don’t want to do it at the beginning of a relationship. It may not scare him off, but it will make him think that you’re not looking for anything serious and you’re not girlfriend material.
Posting pics of other guys.
Unless you’re collecting random guys, it’s usually best to minimize the number of pictures of random guys on your social media. Potential boyfriends are going to see these pics and you probably don’t want them to be unnecessarily jealous or intimidated. If you have a brother or close friend who keeps popping up in your photo albums, that’s fine, but the more random guys found in your pics, the faster a good guy’s feelings for you will fade.
Tweeting like it’s your job.
Guys interested in you will want to see what you’ve been tweeting. In fact, they’ll be disappointed if you haven’t said anything in two years. However, most guys aren’t voracious readers. I know, it’s a problem, but that means some guys will be overwhelmed and turned off if you tweet too often. Reading 10-tweet rants on a daily basis is a bit tedious. Remember, nobody wants to follow someone who’s going to be clogging up their timeline every day.
Being guilty of premature status change.
A great way to scare off a guy is to change your relationship status too soon. This seems like it should be standard operating procedure, but don’t tell the world that you’re in a relationship until you talk to your partner. Don’t let the guy learn on social media that he’s officially in a relationship. Wouldn’t it be romantic to talk about it first so you two can change your status at the same time?
Posting sleeping selfies.
For the record, I can’t believe sleeping selfies are a thing. Unless you’re camping with your family or having a sleepover with your girlfriends, having one posted online is probably going to turn off potential boyfriends. He’s going to wonder who took it and assume it was another guy. With that, his crush on you will quickly fade away.
Having an account full of nothing but selfies.
Like it or not, there is such a thing as taking too many selfies. I know that they’re fun, but for crying out loud, mix it up a bit. It’s no different from an Instagram account consisting of 800 pictures of your cat. If all you do is take selfies (even cute ones), people looking at your social media will think you’re boring and uninventive. It may seem superficial, but most guys will think twice before getting involved with a selfie-addict.
Posting crying photos.
Why anyone would want to post a photo of themselves crying is beyond me. From a guy’s perspective, it’s not what you want to see on the page of a girl you might like. In addition to being a little weird, it just makes you seem tragic and attention-seeking. That may not be the case, but that’s how a lot of guys will interpret it. More importantly, those usually aren’t traits we look for in a girlfriend.
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The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved.
1. When a woman talks shit about everyone — even her closest friends that she’s super sweet to in person.
2. When a woman views every other woman as her competition.
3. When a woman teases him about something that hits too close to home (like the bald spot atop his head).
4. When a woman gets ridiculously drunk, sloppy, and downright mean.
5. When a woman talks about babies way too early on in the relationship.
6. When a woman has no idea what’s going on in the world, no matter whether it has to do with politics or celebrity gossip.
7. When a woman checks the mirror every five seconds.
8. When a woman looks down at her phone when he’s in the middle of speaking.
9. When a woman has poor hygiene and bad breath.
10. When a woman can’t hold a conversation with him.
11. When a woman checks out every other guy that walks past.
12. When a woman talks nonstop without asking him a single question about himself.
13. When a woman’s life revolves entirely around him (or men in general).
14. When a woman tries to one-up him whenever he opens his mouth.
15. When a woman is a sore loser and doesn’t have any fun bowling or playing pool, unless she’s the winner.
16. When a woman needs the most expensive wine, clothes, and pocketbooks in order to be happy.
17. When a woman can’t spell or form a grammatically correct sentence.
18. When a woman takes nonstop selfies and forces him to join in, even when he’s not in the mood.
19. When a woman hates animals and freaks out whenever a dog or cat goes near her.
20. When a woman sleeps around, even though she’s in an “exclusive relationship.”
21. When a woman has no clear goals for her future.
22. When a woman claims that she’s “fine,” even though she’s clearly pissed off.
23. When a woman freaks out whenever he wants to have a night out with the boys.
24. When a woman gives him ultimatums or threatens him in order to get what she wants.
25. When a woman focuses on all of the negatives in life instead of the positives.
26. When a woman doesn’t even try to get along with his parents and closest friends.
27. When a woman doesn’t do any work in the bedroom.
28. When a woman only dates men that reach a certain height.
29. When a woman gets jealous easily.
30. When a woman makes fun of his music taste.
31. When a woman fights with him over every little thing.
32. When a woman compares him to other men.
33. When a woman doesn’t realize her beauty and worth.
5 Things That Turn Men Off to Relationships
Have you ever dated a guy who at first looked at you like you were magic…but then soon after seemed kind of indifferent to you? (Raising my hand to this one!)
Or how about being “ghosted?” That has happened to so many of us that it’s now a part of our common vernacular. Has a guy ever suddenly lost interest when things started out seemingly great? Have you faced the pain and agony of watching his excitement over you steadily extinguish?
I know you have because we all have. It’s painful, and quite frankly, it sucks.
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I want to start off by saying it’s not because you’re bad or unlovable or unworthy. If that’s what you think, then stop!
You, like many women, may just be unaware of subtle things that turn men off. You may have the very best intentions… but it’s not about the intentions. It’s something else.
Whatever the scenario, you’re left with endless questions and want to know what happened and why. Well, that’s why you have me!
I’m going to break down the five biggest reasons men get turned off from being in a relationship with you.
What does it mean to have an agenda? It means being in a relationship is your goal and everything you say and do is in pursuit of that goal.
Having an agenda prevents you from connecting to him as a person because he is really just a means to an end for you.
The courtship phase is supposed to be about getting to know each other. It’s the time to discover if you have chemistry, if you’re compatible, and if you enjoy each other’s company.
If during this discovery phase you both come to realize how much better your life is with the other person, and how much you enjoy having them around, then a relationship will effortlessly and naturally unfold.
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When you mentally jump into a relationship prematurely, you take the fun out of it and instead of things feeling pleasant, there is an underlying feeling of pressure that your man can definitely pick up on.
Think about it. It’s impossible to enjoy spending time with someone who has an agenda. You just know when someone is trying to get something out of you and it causes you to be cautious and guarded around them.
When you have an agenda, you’re on red alert. You’re anxious and on edge because you have so much at stake. You can’t just be. This is a destructive vibe and a total attraction killer for a man.
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Aside from that, when you’re in agenda mode you kind of cheat yourself out of this very fun and exciting stage of a relationship.
You only get one beginning, and it’s such a short-lived and magical part of the relationship. It’s fun getting to know someone new and spend time with someone you like. It’s exciting to discover this person and to discover things about yourself in the process. You feel exhilarated and electric and almost high.
Rushing into a relationship kills the attraction…and the relationship. Try to enjoy the process without racing to some end goal. Be present. Enjoy the here and now.
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2. Being Too Needy
It’s natural to want to make the guy you’re dating happy. However, this can quickly translate into being too needy and desperate and this is what turns men off more than anything. Being too available and trying too hard are visceral turn-offs and make you look desperate and insecure, to put it bluntly.
When you bend over backwards to please a guy it sends off a red flag in his mind and he reflexively pulls away.
Here is something very important to understand: men want to feel wanted, not needed. Needing him means you need him to respond to you in a certain way in order to feel OK. If he doesn’t text back or compliment you or become “official,” you feel devastated. (If you think neediness is a problem for you, be sure to read this article.)
If the only thing you have to look forward to these days is hearing from him, then you need to adjust your priorities ASAP.
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Don’t make him the center of your life. Happiness is something you bring into a relationship, not something you get out of one.
A lot of advice givers will say don’t be too available. This is true to a certain extent but being too available isn’t the problem. The problem is really being too needy and desperate for his approval. It’s a mindset more than a set of beahviors.
3. Settling for What You Don’t Want (and not really knowing what it is you do want)
You’re dating a guy and he shows you he’s not relationship material. Maybe he even comes right out and tells you he doesn’t want to be in a relationship. But you stay anyway, thinking surely he’ll change his mind.
Sound familiar? I hear variations of this situation all the time…I was even once in a situation just like that (okay, maybe a few!).
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Here is where it becomes a problem. You stay with this guy who can’t give you what you want, but you expect him to act like your boyfriend and then get upset when he doesn’t. You expect to hear from him, you expect him to touch base, you expect certain romantic gestures…but he doesn’t deliver. The thing is, you can’t cast him in the role of the boyfriend when he doesn’t accept the part.
In these situations, the woman often feels resentful towards him for not meeting her needs even though she knew he was incapable of doing so from the start. When these bitter, negative feelings start to emerge, it’s not long before he’s out of there.
You can’t change a man or turn him into what you want him to be. You also can’t force a situation to be what you want it to be. The only person you can control is yourself.
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Figure out what you want, give yourself permission to have the relationship you want, don’t settle for what you don’t want and then get upset when your needs aren’t being met.
This essentially comes down to lack of boundaries and lack of boundaries is caused by low self-esteem…just like almost every other relationship problem.
4. Not Being Honest
There is no more unattractive woman to a man than a dishonest woman. Trust is everything in a relationship; if you’re dishonest and deceitful, he will end it faster than you can say deceitful.
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It’s not just about lying, although this is a major red flag. It’s also about being dishonest with who you are, with what you want, and your intentions.
Don’t tell him you’re a cool go with the flow girl who wants to be his sex-buddy when secretly you’re hoping he falls madly in love with you and proposes.
Don’t tell him you believe certain things just to get him to like you. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t. The truth always comes out and then what will you do?
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Another layer is being emotionally honest. Tell him how you’re feeling, don’t be passive aggressive or shove your feelings aside (they will come back with a vengeance). Yes, sometimes this will require being a little vulnerable — and we’re all terrified of that! — but you have to go there if you ever want a deep, meaningful relationship.
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What scares men away is neediness and emotionally empty women who rely on a boyfriend to fill them up with happiness and a sense of worth. A woman who expresses her emotions and needs honestly is not scary. On the contrary, she’s endearing.
5. Being Too Me-Centered
In the age of Instagram and Facebook, we all have traces of Narcissus in us (some much more than others). It’s not so much that we’re so obsessed with ourselves as it is a whopping dose of insecurity. Who wouldn’t feel insecure constantly scrolling through filtered images of people at their absolute best? But that’s a separate topic.
Talking too much, bragging, boasting, worrying about your own wants and needs to the point of obsession- these are all major turn-offs for men.
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Relationships are about giving, and me-centered people can’t see beyond their own wants and needs. The relationship isn’t a shared experience, it’s their experience and this can lead to a very toxic dynamic.
A lot of women fall into the trap of obsessing over their own wants and needs (and I want to clarify that I’m not saying you shouldn’t have wants or needs, you should! And those wants and needs will hopefully be met. But it goes two ways), and then wonder why a guy is no longer interested. You have to see outside of yourself in order to connect to someone else and this can only happen when you’re in a healthy place emotionally.
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At the same time, being too him-centered is also a problem, as we discussed in the beginning of this article. Both have the same root: insecurity.
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So what’s the solution?
The solution is not to follow a set of rules or play a part. A friend of mine asked me the other day for the “formula” to get a guy to want to commit. She was coming from a truly earnest place. She didn’t buy that it was all random happenstance, surely there must be a strategy!
Well, there is… sort of. The “strategy” is to be your best self. To work on your issues. To find happiness in your life and to find meaning in your life. The solution is not to believe that you will find happiness, self-esteem, and meaning as soon as you have a boyfriend. This mindset is what causes all the off-putting behaviors I’ve discussed in this article.
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That is really all you can do. You can’t force someone to love you, you just have to make yourself loveable in essence.
I hope this article helped you better understand what turns a man off from a relationship. But there’s more you need to know. There are two defining moments in a relationship that will determine if it lasts or if you get your heart broken. The first is when your guy seems to withdraw and pull away. If it seems like he’s losing interest, pulling away, or acting cold toward you, then you need to read this article right now to find out exactly what to do: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This…
The next thing most women are unaware of is what actually inspires a man to commit for life. What makes a woman girlfriend/wife potential? Do you know the answer? If not, you need to read this article right now: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman
Got a question or some feedback? Hit me up in the comments section!
Lots of love,
5 Things That Turn Men Off to Relationships:
- When you have an agenda
- Being too needy
- Settling for what you don’t want
- Not being honest
- Being too me-centered
You have to respect a man whose strong will and firm convictions overpower his evolutionary instinct to mate. There’s no doubt that men are attracted to women. Men want sex and yes, men DO forgive women for a lot. A lot of men are in that place, that lonely place, where they’d much rather have a less-than-perfect woman keeping them company rather than continue to live alone.
Now that said…don’t think for a minute that these lonely guys will tolerate anything. Every man has a breaking point. You might call it a threshold for punishment and disrespect. Men are surprisingly sensitive at times, yes, even the macho guys and the alpha males that come across so strong in the beginning have limits.
After all, a man can only fully embrace his confidence and masculinity IF he’s getting the right signals from a woman. If he’s not getting that encouragement and that welcoming presence that keeps him chasing, then he will walk away. Guaranteed, no matter how desperate he is or how lonely, no matter how much likes you.
Guys do have dating rules, believe it or not, even if they don’t know it at first. Every guy has standards, every guy gets his feelings hurt. And every guy has a “NOPE!” moment when he’s ready to call it a night and walk back to a drama-free life.
So let’s consider nine specific ways to turn a guy off and kill his interest for good. Make sure you or someone you know isn’t inadvertently making these date-killing mistakes!
1. Playing cold-to-get
One of those most misunderstood motifs in dating is “playing hard to get”. The keyword is playing—when a woman likes a guy she plays with him…she resists with a wink, with a smile, encouraging him to try harder and continue this game. A woman who’s cold, however, moody and rude to men misses the point entirely. There’s no play, no flirting…just hostility. Guys will only tolerate cold behavior for so long before they give up.
2. Being overly critical and seldom ever rewarding him
Men love compliments! So while you can make a case for how men love to work hard and chase a woman for attention, he will also get tired very quickly if his partner never compliments him and only offers criticism. Even if that criticism is “friendly”, it’s beside the point. Men thrive on encouragement and positive reinforcement. Criticism is also a sex-killer in the bedroom for sure.
3. Being helpless and staying that way
Ironically, the same impulse a man has to “rescue you” and be a big daddy for the damsel in distress type…is the same impulse that will backfire and turn him off completely. Men do love helping women and saving women…but this doesn’t mean he WANTS a woman who’s helpless. He’s turned on by ambition, success and a woman who achieves things. It makes him feel extra special if he can help a woman who usually doesn’t need help. On the other hand, a woman who feels like a project and has no real independence in her own life will never truly have his respect.
4. Lying and dishonesty
Men are fiercely loyal to a woman who earns their respect and trust. So it’s not all that surprising that when a man’s confidence is betrayed—through lying, sneaking around, hiding information and so on—he loses all the intimacy built thus far in the relationship. Even little moments of dishonesty that feel too much like manipulation can seem threatening to him. For example, pouting about something he doesn’t do rather than just telling him what you want him to do can create friction.
5. Close-minded attitudes, especially about the people and pursuits they care about
Men are highly protective about family, friends, hobbies and career/passion. He wants you to be generally supportive about the things that matter most to him. That’s why judgmental attitudes about your friends or narrow-mindedness in other aspects can be very upsetting to a guy. He wants you to be open-minded and willing to discuss subjects without exploding into anger or lecturing. And the closer you get to his heart, the more dangerous it is to clash philosophically.
6. A lack of ambition
The more successful the man, the more he admires ambition, smarts and work ethic from women. He simply won’t find a woman very attractive if has no goals, no dreams, and a complaining spirit. He wants to meet someone more attuned to his own life, someone
who matches his lifestyle. Uneven power relationships, where a man is very successful and his wife stays at home, are usually not that common in today’s competitive world.
7. A condescending attitude
Beware the subtleties of a condescending attitude because men pick up on it fast. It’s not merely the quality of arrogance that turns him off. It can also be a woman’s boredom on a date…the attitude that says “You entertain me while I contribute nothing.” A man can likewise find mundane conversation uninteresting and unworthy of his time. True, this is not “every man” but among the wealthy and successful, you will definitely find this pet peeve.
8. Nagging or being too motherly
Sure, guys have mother issues and may even want to date a hot mom, right? But guess what, none of those moms actually ACT like the dude’s own mother. That is, nagging, overly critical and too controlling. That’s a mom thing, not a date thing.
9. Not caring about one’s appearance
Men are not always about looks and many guys do actually avoid the “trophy wife” look. That said, they DO pay attention to hygiene, grooming and a basic sense of fashion. They can sense when you “don’t care” and they’re not impressed. On the other hand, a woman who dresses up and “looks the part” always captures a man’s attention.
Men are horny and in search of women, that’s a given! But it’s not all about looks and it’s certainly not all about “attitude”. It’s about giving a great first impression and showing each other proper respect. Avoid these nine date killers and you’ll definitely feel more chemistry as the night goes on.
The 5 Word Phrase That Destroys a Man’s Love For You And Drives Him Out Of Your Life
There’s a simple 5 word phrase that will destroy any man’s love for you and drive him out of your life completely…
It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…
But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…
It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…
And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…
Have you figured out what it is yet?
Many women send this as a text message when they’re feeling insecure…
And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…
Most of the women who ask it don’t even know how harmful it is…
Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…
A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…
And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…
Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…
If you don’t know what this simple yet seemingly innocent question is…
I want you to stop what you’re doing and go watch this video presentation that I put together for you at the link below…
My name is Matthew Coast and I’ve been teaching in the dating industry on since 2005…
I’ve helped hundreds of thousands of women, all over the world…
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Reddit user tennesseelamb asked the website’s users, “What turns you off a girl?” and the Reddit community had some opinions. I’ve gathered the top answers and listed them in below, in order of popularity. Word of caution: This is from Reddit, so please take it all with a grain of salt, and more importantly, just be yourself. I’m a fat weirdo who stares at her phone all day and sometimes speaks exclusively in rhyme (I’m the worst?) and I’m married to a wonderful dude who loves me because of those things, not in spite of them. So just do you, you awesome unicorn.
But now, onto the show! Here’s what turns (some) guys off:
1. Not being honest. This seems pretty basic. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship and if you don’t have that, you don’t have anything. This is Relationship 101. Next!
2. Excessive self-centeredness. It’s good to love yourself, but maybe try to refrain from making out with yourself in the mirror every morning. (Just some mornings.)
3. Pretending to be dumb to get attention. You’re not stupid, so don’t play.
4. Pretending to be clumsy. I guess not every dude wants to date a tipsy Zooey Deschanel. (Although, I will say, getting drunk with Zooey Deschanel is probably super fun. You can paint your nails 10 different pastel colors and you know she can do a mean braid.)
5. Being on your cell phone all the time. Someone else added, “In the same vein, actually caring about Snapchat or Instagram enough that it impedes real life.” Well, then, I guess I’ll never get a man, OH WELL. (J/K I’m married and my husband doesn’t give a shit.)
6. Trying to get him to act jealous. That said, I read a relationship advice book once that said it’s imperative to make a guy a little jealous so he’ll put a ring on it. I think Beyoncé wrote it.
7. Playing hard to get. I guess wanting a guy to work for it is a no-no? Although, honestly, if he isn’t willing to try a little, was it ever even worth it?
8. Lying about your wants. If you know where you want to eat, don’t tell him to decide and then pout when it’s not what you want. Just say you want Chipotle. You always want Chipotle. (Don’t worry, he does too.)
9. Narrow-mindedness. Seems fair. Judge not, lest you be judged, love everyone, just be chill, etc.
10. But also, being too open-minded. What can I say? Guys are complicated, emotional creatures. They don’t know what they want.
11. Helplessness. Men like women who can get shit done.
12. Treating your social media accounts like it’s your job. Although, to be fair, sometimes it is your job. And in that case, you really should treat it as so because being fired is not the greatest. If not, I guess you can close Instagram every once in awhile. If you want.
13. Not reciprocating things. An example from Reddit: “I was with my ex for 6 years and through those 6 years I helped her through her struggles with depression and self destruction. Fighting every step of the way. She always said she was so grateful and would do anything she could to help me if I ever had struggles. About 5 years into our relationship I started to develop obsessive behavior and rituals eventually got diagnosed with OCD and what they called ‘Mild Autism’. The second I walked out and told her I could see in her face that it bothered her. Fast forward to a year later I had a bad evening and I had brushed my teeth for a fourth time because I kept messing up how I put down my tooth brush. She looked at me disgusted and left that night to ‘Get a break from it.’ I have not seen her since or spoken to her.”
14. Not complimenting them. Sometimes dudes need to be told their butt doesn’t look big in those jeans. Toss a boy a compliment every once in a while.
15. Not being real. Don’t play games. Just be yourself and find a dude who likes you the way you are (and vice versa). Now that’s good advice.
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15 Things That Turn Guys Off (Girls, You Have No Idea!)
Ladies, your man loves you but he might not love everything about you. Yup, it’s true. There are a few things that are major turn offs for guys and you might just be doing them accidentally! Here are 15 of them to save you in times of need!
1. Trying to make him jealous
It really doesn’t work, girls. If he is jealous of something then he’d be jealous even when you don’t try to make that thing obvious. Men hate it when you put effort into making them feel jealous.
2. Cribbing all the time
He wants to hear why you’re sad but if you crib about the same thing all the time, he will lose interest in it. There is just a certain amount of advice he can give and then he just needs you to handle your own problems. Which you can because you’re the boss!
3. Acting dumb
Contrary to age-old beliefs, men are actually more attracted to intelligence than confused, helpless women. So if you think acting naive and confused will make him like you then you need to think again!
4. Playing super hard to get
He might like the chase. But he won’t keep chasing you forever. Learn when it’s time to stop playing hard to get and just do what both of you want to do. The man doesn’t need to be the only one making all the effort, right?
5. Giving him ultimatums
There are many subtle ways to ask him to do what you would like him to do. You don’t always need to create a do-or-die situation for him. After all, he is only human too!
6. Being late
Manage your time if you’re going on a date with him instead of making him wait for two hours every time. There is absolutely nothing romantic about it, you’re just wasting someone’s precious time!
7. Always being shy in bed
Why be shy when you can be a Goddess instead? Take control and surprise him on occasion, ladies! Lead him into the room, initiate things – he will love it!
8. Hating his favourite sport
Okay, you hating his favorite sport is like him hating your favourite book/ movie/ tv show. And that’s heartbreaking, right? Don’t ask him to make you his only interest, let him fly!
9. Wearing too much makeup
He wants to see the real you, not the you with a few layers on. Especially when it’s just him! He wants to see the tiny imperfections that make you who you are. So shed the layers, ladies!
10. Telling your friends everything about your relationship
Yes, our friendships are sacred but honestly, men find it annoying when we tell all the deets to our girlfriends. So maybe it’s time to keep a few things just between the two of you!
11. Being overly dependent
Though he loves being there for you when you need him, he will like it more when you don’t depend on him all the time. It’s important for your relationship that both of you know how to care for yourselves individually. It will only make your relationship stronger!
12. Giving mixed signals
Men get extremely confused when women turn hot and cold, all of a sudden, for no reason at all. He won’t understand where you’re coming from and would, in fact, freak out about it instead! It’s always better to be direct when it comes to matters of the heart.
13. Invading their privacy
Trust us, if he feels like opening up to you, he will. You won’t go far questioning about his personal life when he doesn’t feel comfortable enough to share it with you. Give him time to put his faith in you.
14. Being unnecessarily high maintenance
He loves to please you and pamper you but not when it is just an unnecessary act. He wants to keep it simple and easy because no guy really wants to handle the complexity and drama that comes with an extremely high maintenance girlfriend!
15. Talking about other men
How would you feel if your man kept talking about other women? Not that great, right? That’s pretty much how he feels when you keep talking about other guys. So if you do it often, consciously or unconsciously, it’s time to give it a break! GIFs: Giphy, Tumblr
10 of the Biggest Turn-Offs for Your Partner
Are you turning your partner off without even knowing it? If you want to remain in your relationship for the long haul, you’ll need to do your best to make sure you’re not engaging in behaviors that may be sabotaging your chances for success. Just because you’re in a long-term, committed relationship doesn’t mean you can now do whatever you want and it will be fine. You still have to watch your behavior and make sure to keep the passion alive by treating each other as well as you did when you first met. Here are 10 of the biggest turn-offs for your partner.
1. Lacking a sense of humor
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Don’t take yourself too seriously. A sense of humor is not only attractive but also helps strengthen your relationship. Laughter can help relieve tension and bond a couple together. In a study on relationship deal-breakers published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, participants agreed that lacking a sense of humor was a big turn-off.
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Openly disrespecting your partner is one of the quickest ways to turn him or her off. For men, especially, respect makes them feel loved and valued. Relationship expert Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, author of Love & Respect, says both men and women have a need for respect and love, but men tend to react differently when they do not feel respected.
Also show respect by not leering at that attractive waiter or waitress at the restaurant. Sure, you’ll see attractive people from time to time, but resist the urge to ogle someone in front of your partner.
3. Being secretive
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Keeping secrets can be just as bad as lying (some say it’s the same as lying, but we’ll let you decide). Acting overly mysterious will only serve to form a wedge between you and your partner. If you feel you have to keep secrets from your partner, it’s time to decide whether it still makes sense for you to be in the relationship.
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Lying is a major don’t when it comes to relationships. If you can’t be open and honest with each other, you are lacking a basic building block for a successful relationship. Although there is no relationship where there is full disclosure at all times, it is still a good idea to be as truthful as possible.
Psychologist Ellyn Bader says lying usually leads to a vicious cycle of more lies. “Lies between lovers have a tremendous potential to both nurture and destroy a relationship. Unfortunately, lies usually undermine a relationship because, when unchecked by compassion and honest introspection, they tend to feed on each other,” Bader writes in the book Tell Me No Lies.
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Relationships must involve a bit of give and take. One partner should not be doing all or most of the giving while the other sits back and receives. Remember, the relationship is not all about you. There are two people who both deserve love and care.
6. Constant arguing
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Are you always in a bad mood and looking for a fight? This could be what causes your partner to eventually pull away from you for good. Look for constructive ways to settle your differences. You can start by improving your listening skills and not letting the argument continue to escalate.
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Lack of ambition is a relationship killer. If you don’t have a clear plan for you life, get one. Being lazy is the second-biggest relationship deal breaker, according to a study conducted by biological anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher and Dr. Justin R. Garcia, an assistant professor for gender studies. Roughly 59.6% of men and 72.1% of women do not appreciate someone without ambition.
8. Taking your partner for granted
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Once you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, there is sometimes a tendency to take each other for granted. You may reason he or she already knows you care, so you may not say the words “I love you” often, or at all. However, regularly ignoring your partner’s needs can eventually lead to strain and eventually a relationship breakdown. Psychologist John Gottman investigated the impact of exchanges within a relationship.
He asserts these exchanges, which he calls bids, can more accurately predict the success or failure of a relationship than arguments. Gottman says these exchanges are emotional signals and the way you react to a bid or signal can determine whether your relationship will last. You can either bid positively, negatively, or in a neutral manner (what Gottman refers to as bidding toward, against, or turning away). The more often couples chose to bid toward, the less likely they were to break up.
Keep your mess in check. | djedzura/iStock/Getty Images
The way you keep your house says a lot about you. No one wants to live in chaos. Your partner should be able to come back to a clean, orderly home. The same goes for your appearance. Roughly 71% of women and 63% of men agree that a messy appearance is not desirable. So make sure to keep your home and your appearance neat.
10. Poor hygiene
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Make an effort to take care of your body. Keep your nails, hair, and body clean and fresh at all times. No one wants to get intimate with someone who smells and does not look good. Show respect for yourself and your partner by practicing proper hygiene.
On the other hand, be careful not to do certain grooming rituals while your partner is present. Don’t get so comfortable with your partner that you start acting more like friends than lovers. Resist the urge to clip your toenails or shave your private bits in front of your partner. Sometimes a little mystery is necessary. You don’t have to share every experience together.
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5 Everyday Things Women Do That Turn Men Off (And Have No Clue About)
If you want things to work out, it’s time to knock it off.
I asked several male friends over the age of 40, “What turns you off that women have no clue about?”
You’ve probably heard of some of these turn-offs from men. However, knowing these are issues for men may not have motivated you to stop doing them. Maybe this article will help you understand the impact to your relationships.
Here are the top 5 turn offs for guys that you need to know:
1. You dumb yourself down.
If you are a woman who thinks men don’t want you to be smart, think again. Healthy men are attracted to confident, happy, and smart women. Over the years, men tell me they love smart women.
The point of dating is to first find someone you would like to be with, not to find some guy (or any guy) who likes you.
Do you want to spend your life with a man who doesn’t value your intelligence (or anything else about you)? If he doesn’t value who you are and appreciate your brilliance, the relationship you have isn’t a real relationship because you can’t be you.
When I was single, men would always tell me I was so busy. It took me years to follow my dream and go back to graduate school while I was working full-time. My husband and I connected during my graduate program. The message is to follow your dream and be your brilliant self. If a man doesn’t find that attractive, move on.
One thing I’ve observed is that sometimes, a smart woman is arrogant and is demeaning to a man. When that happens, a man’s resistance is not to her intelligence but to her attitude and disrespect.
Arrogance is not confidence. You don’t want a man to talk down to you and a man doesn’t want you to talk down to him. Most men want a partner with whom he can have conversations about life, work, family, politics, challenges, and everything — so he wants a woman who is intelligent.
2. You fake it.
No, I’m not talking about sex, but it applies here too.
Faking is a game that most men don’t like to play. One of the examples men spoke about is when a woman pretends to like something he said or did so that he will like her.
A man who is secure will be okay if you don’t think everything he says or does is funny or brilliant, as long as you aren’t rude about it. Acknowledge and appreciate him when it is authentic.
You do want a “real” relationship where you can be yourself and know he loves you for you, don’t you? So does he! Women clients often talk about how they feel betrayed when a man isn’t honest with them. This is a lesson that goes both ways. In the end, it won’t work if either of you can’t be yourself.
Here are some examples of faking it: Being happy when you are depressed, acting like you are enjoying something when you don’t, being interested in his work when you are bored, and saying you love to do something when you don’t (like football, fishing, working out all the time, boating, or horror movies).
Pretending you are someone you are not doesn’t work in the long run. You could say another word for “faking it” or “pretending” is lying, and that is not a strong foundation for a true partnership.
I once dated a sweet man whose sense of humor annoyed me. A mutual friend had set us up and she thought he was funny and I would enjoy being with him. He’d weave lines from movies from the 1950’s that I had never seen, and I never got the point and told him.
After a few months, I broke up with him. I explained to him that he was a nice guy, but I didn’t think he was funny and he deserved to be with a woman who would appreciate him. I thought it was better to be honest then just ghost him.
And don’t fake it, sexually. During sex, communicate what you like so he knows and hopefully he will do that, too, so you both learn about how to please the other. If you want a satisfying sexual relationship, don’t pretend you like something that doesn’t really turn you on.
3. You feed the drama in your life.
The definition of “melodrama” is being overly emotional and causing a scene over every little problem.
Are you a “(Melo) Drama Queen”? Do you make a big deal about a little problem? Do you gossip about others to make yourself look better? Do you usually make yourself the heroine, victim, or villain of your story (or all three, depending on which will get you the most attention)?
In general, men do not like drama.
Some men have admitted that when dating, they will tolerate drama if they are getting laid. The hotter a woman is, the more drama a man will put up with. On the other hand, if the drama supersedes her hotness, he will leave.
What about when you are in a long-term relationship? It depends on how long you’ve been together. Every man has a breaking point. One man said that when drama is brought into a relationship, at some point the man will start evaluating whether he loves the woman enough to stay and if the relationship is worth it.
If you are a “(Melo) Drama Queen”, you may be addicted to the hormones released by being dramatic. You can get attention even if it’s negative. The dramatic retelling of your story can be stressful for you as the story-teller, and it can also stress out the people listening to your story.
Your drama can give you a big burst of energy and make you feel good to be the center of attention; however, your body can still go into high-stress mode.
4. You are constantly nagging and complaining.
The reason you might not be getting what you want is that your communication skills are not working. Instead of complaining about what you don’t want, ask for what you do want.
First, focus on what you want not what you don’t want. This is for your benefit (so you don’t automatically go into complaint-mode). It also is for the benefit of whomever you are with including your spouse or boyfriend, your date, a child, employee, or neighbor.
Second, notice I said “ask”, not demand. We all have expectations of ourselves and others. When you have an expectation and it hasn’t been clearly communicated, you are likely to react negatively, such as being disappointed, frustrated, angry, or hurt.
By focusing on what you want, you will bring the best out in your man. Most men want to please us. It’s no fun for him when he is trying to please you and take care of you, but all you do is complain. (Of course, we want to be appreciated, too.)
Even on your best behavior on a date, you might find yourself complaining about the food or service at the restaurant, the traffic, work, friends, your family, whatever. If you don’t want a man with baggage (and especially if you post that on your dating profile), then do not complain about your exes!
Most men want a woman who is happy and complaining and nagging indicates that you are not happy.
Women often assume that because a man doesn’t express his deep feelings that he doesn’t have any feelings, or that he does, but he is purposely holding back. Men feel emotions deeply, even if they don’t show them.
Nagging him to get him to talk has the opposite effect! If you want to know something, find a time to ask when he is not doing something else.
Let him know you have a question, ask it, then be quiet, don’t interrupt and wait patiently for his answer. Men who don’t express their feelings regularly may take time to think about their answer.
If you are just starting to date someone and you ask personal questions, if he doesn’t answer the way you want, don’t interrogate (nag) him. If you want someone who is more open, and he doesn’t share openly after several dates, let him know that open communication is important to you and you wonder how he feels about that.
Maybe he isn’t comfortable sharing emotions with someone he doesn’t know or trust early in the relationship but as time progresses, if he’s not forthcoming, then you need to decide if you can accept his communication style or not.
If you are in a committed relationship and your partner doesn’t do things that you ask, I’m sure you know that nagging doesn’t work even though we still do it!
Trust your partner is doing his best and if he isn’t doing what he promised, find out how what’s going on. Create a safe space to talk by sharing with him your commitment to creating a loving relationship and partnership. Share what’s not working for you and ask him (and listen without defending yourself) what’s not working for him.
Explore how you both can work together and support each other to make things work for both of you. You bathe the kids and he reads them a story. He pays the bills and you go grocery shopping.
What would it be like if you could make requests that could be heard by your man? A man who cares about you will want to please you so when you are gracious, asking not demanding and appreciate him, he will want to help you.
If you’ve been nagging him in the past, you may have trained him to not listen to you, so when you change the way to speak and act, it may take him time to catch on and catch up with you!
5. You act masculine instead of using your feminine energy.
In a couple, one person typically has more female energy and the other more masculine energy. Both types of energy are a part of all of us and different circumstances can bring one out more. The stereotypes of the past do not hold anymore.
If you are woman bringing masculine energy to the relationship but you want a strong man, there’s no room for a man to be masculine without trying to dominate you. This is a common challenge for my female clients and something I’ve learned in my marriage.
Tony Robbins says that the more different the energy, the more passion in the relationship. When you both have the same energy, you may have more in common but lack passion. Robbins also says when women are stressed or tired, they go into protection mode and become more masculine…leading to zero possibility of passion in the relationship.
Men often compete to be the “Alpha” or lead male. When a woman is bringing her masculine energy, she may be consciously or unconsciously competing to be the alpha male. Maybe this works if you are in a leadership role in your organization, especially if you are in a highly competitive male-dominated environment.
On the other hand, many women have feminine energy we deny or suppress, especially at work, and that creates stress for us because we are not being who we really are. You may not realize this because masculine energy — male and female — is all you’ve seen demonstrated in your workplace.
When you are being more forceful and not tapping into your feminine energy, you may not only be denying a part of who you are, you may be suppressing your gifts of feminine energy, including emotional IQ, collaboration, listening, appreciation, and connecting.
As a former HR Director, I can tell you that when it comes to work, our feminine energy is often the source of higher employee satisfaction, retention, and loyalty.
Feminine energy is powerful, but it is not dominating. One of the men responding said, “I want a strong woman who can allow me to have my authentic emotion.” Men need for us to hold the space for them to express themselves and listen.
Do you see any of these patterns in your interactions with the men in your life?
Love is a two-way street and when you listen to what a man wants, you have a choice of providing that or not. If you withhold until he gives you what you want, your relationship won’t work.
Get to know your partner step-by-step, even when you think you already know him and don’t take him for granted.
If you want a loving relationship, you have to be willing to be yourself and accept him for who he is. Meet him where he is and see if he meets you where you are.
When both people are committed to the relationship (“we”) instead of their own concerns (“me”) then you can work things out but relationships do not start there. It takes time.
If you know a man is not for you, don’t pretend you care more than you do. If you are dating a man you don’t really care about, you are less available to connect with a man who would be a great partner for you.
You deserve to be with a man who appreciates you and cares about you…and he deserves to be with a woman who appreciates and cares about him.
Marilyn Sutherland is a Relationship Empowerment Coach at Your Journey to Lasting Love. If you are inspired about being yourself and being more aware of how you show up with men, whether you are single or in a committed relationship, reach out to her to request a Breakthrough Discovery Session. Life is too short to “stifle yourself” when the world is waiting for you to show up as your beautiful brilliant self!
This article was originally published at Your Journey To Lasting Love. Reprinted with permission from the author.
7 Things That Turn Men OFF!
Ladies, PAY ATTENTION! Attraction and sexual chemistry are very fickle things. One minute it’s there, and the next, it’s GONE! Your appearance is only part of the equation. It’s your actions that have everything to do with his level of attraction towards you. Never make the mistake of thinking that your looks will have him hooked forever. You’re going to want to do everything within your power to keep your man turned ON, instead of turning him OFF.
1. Basic Grooming
While it is not necessary to be perfectly manicured at all times, you should be showering and shaving daily. If you’re not shaving then the guy is going to know that you’re not that into him. And if you’re not into him, why are you out with him? I realize that some feminists have tried to start a “not shaving” movement. But if you want to attract a masculine man, you’re going to want to shave. He doesn’t want your armpits to look like his!
Included in this is basic self-care like eating healthy and exercising. If you don’t take care of yourself what that conveys to men is that you don’t have respect for yourself. And also, you might be lazy.
The flip side of this coin are the women that OVERDO it with the grooming with too much makeup, fake nails, fake eyelashes, fake tan, fake hair color, too much botox and plastic surgery. Hands down, men prefer natural. Now this is not to say that you can’t do any of these things. I’ve got on makeup right now. But the key is to not overdo it so that it’s noticeable. This could leave a guy thinking: “I wonder what she REALLY looks like”?
2. Bad Habits
This includes excessive drinking, smoking, being chronically late, overspending and having excessive debt. Be really honest with yourself about what your shortcomings are so that you can work every day to improve yourself. You should want to improve yourself for its own sake, not for any man.
3. Being Ungrateful
Nothing is worse for a man than a woman who can’t even say “thank you” when he buys her dinner! Also, women who are unemployed or act entitled are a huge turnoff for men. Gold digging is NOT a career path. You do not deserve anything just because you are a woman.
Men that are ready for a relationship are looking for a woman that’s an equal partner. That want her to love and support him and assist him in achieving his goals and dreams. He wants a woman that is appreciative. Men equate appreciation with love, in fact, many of them can’t tell the difference between the two.
4. Being Insecure and Clingy
Men love women who are confident and comfortable in their own skin. He knows that an insecure woman might cling to him in the hopes of feeling validated. Quite possibly she won’t have her own life and she won’t end up allowing him to have his own life either. Deflecting his compliments also comes across as insecure. If a man is telling you, you look beautiful or sexy, who are you to tell him he’s wrong? Learn how to take a compliment. Say thank you and believe him!
This includes constant bitching, nagging and complaining. Not having a positive outlook on life can be very draining for your partner or date. What most women don’t know is that more than anything in the world, your man wants to make you happy. If you’re not happy, then he feels like a complete failure. But, he doesn’t want to feel like your happiness is completely dependent on him. Happiness must come from within.
Men also dislike when a woman is not fully present. If you’re constantly bringing up your ex or past hurts, then you’re robbing yourself of the joy of being in the present moment.
6. Being Overly Aggressive
Men are always turned off by overly aggressive women. The male’s inherent genetic nature is that of the hunter, he is the aggressive one. If you’re the one being aggressive then you are basically taking away his right to be the masculine one. To be the more feminine one, you should never be the one to call him, ask him out, plan dates, or lure him into bed!
7. Too Focused on the End Goal
Your main focus should not be to get the ring or marriage! The end goal should be to find love and a partner. Yes, men hide their emotions a lot of the time. But that doesn’t mean that don’t have any. Men are loving human beings, and should be treated as such. If he starts to think that you’re looking at him as a sperm donor and banker, then he’s going to be really turned off!
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What Are Things Women Do That Turn Men Off? Number 2 Is So True!
Things Women Do That Turns Men Off
Don’t nag. When you think you are being a little naggy, bite your tongue. Nagging will turn him off
One of the top-most turn offs for guys is the distressing and nagging attitude of the girls. Generally, what guys don’t like is the on-going complaints and issues raised by the girls. When you start finding faults in your guy and rise issues in everything he does, he will eventually get frustrated by you and the relationship.
Okay. You forget to… Brush your teeth. Take a shower. Smell good. Who cares, right? If it ever comes down to a debate focusing on the negatives, he does.
Bad hygiene is among the top turn offs for guys. Guys dislike bad hygiene. They avoid the company of girls with bad aroma. If you don’t clean your body, hair and skin properly, then for sure you are turning your guy off with your unbearable odor. Always remember that guys crave for fresh breath, and sweet smell of skin and clear hair. So, avoiding these hygienic acts eventually draws your guys away from you.
Do you have amazing flirting skills?
Flirting with other guys, while being committed to someone, has been proven to be among the biggest turn offs for guys. When your guy sees you seducing other men, an utter jealousy rise in him, making him doubt you. This results into tension and a sense of devaluing which is one of the most critical turn offs for guys. Thus, you can earn your guy’s love and attention as long as your flirting is totally directed toward him only.
Too much Talking
Blabber. Blabber. Have you ever been called blabbermouth?
An excessive and never-ending talking also turn a guy off. No doubt, guys love to listen, but they hate when all they have to do is to listen all the time. This creates an imbalance in conversation when a guy is not given enough time to make his talking. A talkative girl is considered egoistic by her guy. And if she keeps on repeating this kind of conversational attitude, her guy will surely draw away sooner.
What’s the period of time you’ve been involved with a guy?
A guy admires the strong personality and good reputation. But when he comes to know that his girl does not stick for longer to a single man, he will also stay no longer. Bad morality is thus another turn off for guys. Keep this in your mind that a long-lasting relationship is offered by men only when they find you respectable. So, make your guy proud of you, or else see him walking away from you.
Will it turn him off?
Guys consider smoking as a disgusting habit if found in girls. A smoking girl carries bad odor and unpleasant breath. Yellow teeth and black gums will totally turn men off. Therefore, you must avoid such unhygienic addiction, in case you have. Even though smoking is not seen as turn offs for men by all guys, however, not every guy likes it much for longer.
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11 Things That Turn Guys Off During Sex
February 1, 2006 Share Tweet Flip 0 Shares
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As hard as it may be to believe, there are many times when women do things in bed and guys find it disgusting, or at least a turnoff. What are they thinking? Who are these guys? And how often do they get laid for them to act like divas?
The thing is, it’s normal to let things slide when we haven’t been getting any, but as time passes and you continue to sleep with the same person over and over again, you discover things about their bedroom behavior that may be, well, not to your liking.
Read on to find out what you have in common, or rather don’t, with the 100 guys I surveyed recently.
1- She grinds her teeth on your penis
If you like this, then you’re a bigger man than most. Most guys cannot stand the feel of teeth grinding against the base of their penis, or worse, grinding against the head.
2- She yanks your testicles
It’s one thing for her to cup the boys and even lick them. It’s a whole other ball game, literally, when she starts pulling on them as though they’re detachable. Annoying, to say the least.
3- She sticks her fingers in the wrong places
By wrong places, I mean your butt. Now don’t get me wrong, some guys love the feel of having fingers, or even objects inserted into their anal cavities, but when there’s no warning of what’s about to occur, it can be a very disturbing feeling — not to mention it can make the rest of the session feel very awkward.
4- She licks it like it’s a lollipop
While most of us are thankful when a girl goes down at all, there is a wrong way and a right way to perform on a man. When a girl begins literally licking your penis without covering it with her mouth at any point, it can lead to frustration and ruin the sensation.
5- Keeps sucking when you’re sensitive
She sucks the head of your penis, you almost hit the roof, tell her it’s sensitive and for some reason, she doesn’t listen and continues to suck on it like a madwoman. Usually, however, this happens after you’ve ejaculated, so you can tell her off without fear of not getting sex. Just kidding.
She stops doing what you like, she pinches your nipples, and of course, she farts…